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Where does your uncle live? Does he have to pay $3000 for a 2 bedroom rent?
Seriously, my dad made $150k as a physician... in suburban, central Virginia (not NoVA). This would be what, $400k in the Bay Area? We lived on 6 acres with a barn in a 3 story house with a pool, surrounded by forest.
You can make a ton of money as a doctor nearly anywhere in the United States. Software engineers don't get that freedom. Maybe now with more WFH being common place.
However, now to get to the point of being a physical you need to go under a ton of debt. That wasn't the case for our parents and grandparents.