if I seem like I am hypocritical then it is because I don't scan these things as being the same at all.
Cooperation is very different from dependence.
The rest of your comment seems to assume that I'm talking about "bad things that we do to each other" and I'm not really talking about that at all, merely our dependence on a foreign ally that has unclear motives.
Here's some things that I consider to be true:
1) Our intelligence services are in bed together, that's bad.
2) Our governments are blindly allowing (or in some cases supporting) monopolies of other nations industries. That's bad.
3) Our countries are both victims _and_ perpetrators, there's no black/white divide here. But our peoples will be worse off.
4) We're taking on a debt that has a very high interest later.
I don't think cooperation and pooling of resources is the same as pinning an entire section of society on another country.
For a concrete example, imagine that we're pretty friendly with Germany, we decide to let them be our postmen, they carry all post for us. Eventually we don't have the capacity to deliver mail anymore, the logistics are completely lost on us.
The Germans open our mail, their government "allows" it, and there's nothing we can do because the post is somehow routed via Germany and not our jurisdiction anymore. We do nothing, because we trust the germans, maybe a stern warning, maybe certain mail has to be routed in-country. But the Germans say that this is stifling industry.
Later, Germany invades poland, all our postmen are German, all the trucks are German, all the infrastructure that depends on post is German.
You might argue that this is absurd, but this is how I see the situation with the USA.