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The Death of Couchsurfing?
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#242I've had nothing but amazing experiences with CouchSurfing.
New Years Party in Budapest;
A haunted house trip in Philadelphia turned into being a pretend boyfriend for a girl in Ürümqi and a week later flying to Maldives with her best friend;
Playing ice hockey with the President of Finland;
Having a fling with a famous Japanese MMA Fighter;
I even started my website www.uncivil.engineer because of it; sad to see.
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#243Earlier quoted context omitted.
Guys hitting on girls is sexual assault now?
It's about the power dynamic. You're talking about someone who isn't from the area, who doesn't know anyone nearby, and who is supposed to sleep at your place. If you are aggressively flirting with them, they may be forced into the impression that either they sleep with you or they sleep on the street. And that would definitely be assault
I could give you some tips if you think "hitting on women" means strong-arming them into an implicit deal that they have to fuck you or else.
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#244Earlier quoted context omitted.
It's about the power dynamic. You're talking about someone who isn't from the area, who doesn't know anyone nearby, and who is supposed to sleep at your place. If you are aggressively flirting with them, they may be forced into the impression that either they sleep with you or they sleep on the street. And that would definitely be assault
They are women who have chosen to stay at a male stranger's house. Do you think women are completely naïve about how the world works? I've known two women who couch surf and it was de rigueur to have sex with their hosts.
Jesus christ, this is wrong on so many levels.
Re: The Death of Couchsurfing?
#245Earlier quoted context omitted.
It's about the power dynamic. You're talking about someone who isn't from the area, who doesn't know anyone nearby, and who is supposed to sleep at your place. If you are aggressively flirting with them, they may be forced into the impression that either they sleep with you or they sleep on the street. And that would definitely be assault
I could give you some tips if you think "hitting on women" means strong-arming them into an implicit deal that they have to fuck you or else.
Hence the term "aggressively flirting"
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#246Earlier quoted context omitted.
The number of sexual relationships that start off with the explicit intention of being sexual are vanishingly small. Grindr is an exception because it's aimed at gay men. Most other platforms provide at least a small amount of reasonable doubt. On Tinder you merely select which demographics you are "interested in". There is absolutely no mention of sex or sexual preferences on the app. And Tinder is considered one of…
Well said. The whole gambit of sex is that you have to suss it out from each other with tact and awareness without either person being explicit about it -- hell, even on a taxi ride to a motel to do the damn act. That means that it's always potentially on the table any time you have human connection going on, couchsurfing included. Nothing about couchsurfing means this isn't happening or shouldn't be happening. It's…
Not going to lie the idea that some people I interact with think sex is always going to be on the table wigs me out. There’s a wide variety of libidos and sexualities among humans, many of which don’t operate in the manner being expressed above. (Eg. Demisexuality.)
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#247no wonder why their app sucks.. free is never great. imagine if amazon or google never changed their business models, they would've never become the useful things they are today, would they? if you pay, you get a better service, period.
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#248no wonder why their app sucks.. free is never great. imagine if amazon or google never changed their business models, they would've never become the useful things they are today, would they? if you pay, you get a better service, period.
Do you though? Maybe there are users who only want the free product, to them couchsurfing for a fee is a worse model.
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#249This really reminds me of how podcasts have gone. It used to be that nine out of ten podcasts I listened to had no ads - they were about spreading a message or having fun, or getting some personal recognition. They didn't have major overhead because it's cheap to come on once every week or two and chat with your buddies. Now, not only are there many high-quality professional podcasts, but the old fashioned ones I enj…
It's capitalism, many people have Bills that need paying and they don't have the incredible resources many of us on HN do.
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#250Earlier quoted context omitted.
They are women who have chosen to stay at a male stranger's house. Do you think women are completely naïve about how the world works? I've known two women who couch surf and it was de rigueur to have sex with their hosts.
> They are women who have chosen to stay at a male stranger's house They are people who have chosen to stay at a stranger's house > Do you think women are completely naïve about how the world works No, but I don't think they want to have to take every decision based on probability of getting raped > I've known two women who couch surf and it was de rigueur to have sex with their hosts And I know male hosts who had se…
You seem to be confused between what you think should be true versus what actually is true.
If you think women can afford to take the same risks as men when travelling then I just really don't know what to say to you. That's just hopelessly naïve. Attractive girls learn very early on that every man wants to have sex with them. It's just part of life for them.
> Does that mean that if I couchsurf at a man's flat I should be expecting intercourse for my bed?
No, but if I were you I would at least consider that there might be a "misunderstanding" leading to you having to find alternative accommodation.