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Check first if it applies for your mom. Many but not all countries celebrate it today. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day
If you are on the phone already when you realize it doesn't apply, just say "Sorry mom, you are not eligible today" and hang up immediately.
If your mother is a kind person whom you love, then by all means reach out and tell her. To others like me who may have a gaslighting c* * * of a mother, don't be bullied by societal norms into feeling like a bad person just because you don't want to connect with an abuser. It's perfectly fine to not call your mother on mother's day if you don't have the kind of relationship that will benefit from it.
> It's especially important to call important people in your life today Right - boggles my mind that people think they should be telling anyone to call anyone on a site like this. (Not a comment on my mother - just the idea that everyone has the same relationships as you do and should do things the way you do them.)
It's a nice reminder, don't see the OP post as "reconnect with your abusive parent" more like "today might be a good day to call your mother"
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
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> It's especially important to call important people in your life today Right - boggles my mind that people think they should be telling anyone to call anyone on a site like this. (Not a comment on my mother - just the idea that everyone has the same relationships as you do and should do things the way you do them.)
>boggles my mind that people think they should be telling anyone to call anyone on a site like this. It's a nice reminder, don't see the OP post as "reconnect with your abusive parent" more like "today might be a good day to call your mother"
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
> Is calling your mother several times per week typical on your country? Yes :-)
My family is half European half South American. I call them almost every other day. On a busy week, perhaps I'll only call during the weekend.
My Taiwanese wife calls her mom every day.
If your mother is a kind person whom you love, then by all means reach out and tell her. To others like me who may have a gaslighting c* * * of a mother, don't be bullied by societal norms into feeling like a bad person just because you don't want to connect with an abuser. It's perfectly fine to not call your mother on mother's day if you don't have the kind of relationship that will benefit from it.
The sad fact is that since that relationship is so special, the callous negligence and other pathologies parted by the mother into the relationship are so many times more destructive.
And this is not about the stereotypical sitcom mom who is overbearing or judgemental.
Think about substance abuse, suicide attempts and the like.
Nothing gives you a jolt like finding your mom in her bed OD's with sleeping pills and plastic bags wrapped under her bottom not to soil the sheets. Even though if the mom survives something will be irreparably broken inside the child.
Don't push people about their relationships to their parents. There are lots of sad, sad stories there.
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
> Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week Yes like many things it varies culturally. Calling family 2-4 times a week seems extraordinarily excessive to me. What possibly changes that often that you have anything to tell them about on a call that frequent? I don't think I call my wife that often when I'm working away. And I'm British so it's not just Americans.
I don’t call 4 times a week, but twice aren’t awkward, and once is a given.
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>boggles my mind that people think they should be telling anyone to call anyone on a site like this. It's a nice reminder, don't see the OP post as "reconnect with your abusive parent" more like "today might be a good day to call your mother"
Maybe I'm sensitive, but it comes across as judgemental. 'Call mom' - I can almost feel the condescending do-gooder smile from here.