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Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
If your mother is a kind person whom you love, then by all means reach out and tell her. To others like me who may have a gaslighting c* * * of a mother, don't be bullied by societal norms into feeling like a bad person just because you don't want to connect with an abuser. It's perfectly fine to not call your mother on mother's day if you don't have the kind of relationship that will benefit from it.
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
They’re broken. I call every other week but sometimes if I call more they’ll not answer the phone. I call, either way. There won’t be anything more, previous efforts to repair or resolve or lift any of this have always returned things to the current condition. It always rests here.
So I’ll call, but yes, this is how it is. I wish they had considered going back decades ago. Or hadn’t crumpled under the strain of their efforts.
These holidays are a reminder of what we can’t have.
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
Yes like many things it varies culturally.
Calling family 2-4 times a week seems extraordinarily excessive to me. What possibly changes that often that you have anything to tell them about on a call that frequent?
I don't think I call my wife that often when I'm working away.
And I'm British so it's not just Americans.
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
It’s highly dependent on the family. I call/FaceTime family weekly while friends, who have good relationships with their family, call maybe once a quarter. Anecdotally, my international friends on average put family calls in a higher regard than my American friends.
Still love my mom though. Will call her in a bit.
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
Your question is whether this correlates with nationality. Sincere question: why did you focus on that attribute instead of some other? Is calling your mother several times per week typical on your country?
If your mother is a kind person whom you love, then by all means reach out and tell her. To others like me who may have a gaslighting c* * * of a mother, don't be bullied by societal norms into feeling like a bad person just because you don't want to connect with an abuser. It's perfectly fine to not call your mother on mother's day if you don't have the kind of relationship that will benefit from it.
Right - boggles my mind that people think they should be telling anyone to call anyone on a site like this.
(Not a comment on my mother - just the idea that everyone has the same relationships as you do and should do things the way you do them.)
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week
Your question is whether this correlates with nationality. Sincere question: why did you focus on that attribute instead of some other? Is calling your mother several times per week typical on your country?
Yes :-)
My family is half European half South American. I call them almost every other day. On a busy week, perhaps I'll only call during the weekend.
My Taiwanese wife calls her mom every day.