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Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

#14

Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week

It’s highly dependent on the family. I call/FaceTime family weekly while friends, who have good relationships with their family, call maybe once a quarter.

Anecdotally, my international friends on average put family calls in a higher regard than my American friends.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

#16

Check first if it applies for your mom. Many but not all countries celebrate it today. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day

If you are on the phone already when you realize it doesn't apply, just say "Sorry mom, you are not eligible today" and hang up immediately.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

#18

Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week

Your question is whether this correlates with nationality.

Sincere question: why did you focus on that attribute instead of some other? Is calling your mother several times per week typical on your country?

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

#19

Is it a cultural thing Americans are so detached? Its usual here to call your family 2 to 4 times a week

Living overseas I noticed that other countries are much more family oriented. Here in the states (at least on East/west coasts) people seem to prioritize work and career more.

Re: Tell HN: Call Mom

#20

If your mother is a kind person whom you love, then by all means reach out and tell her. To others like me who may have a gaslighting c* * * of a mother, don't be bullied by societal norms into feeling like a bad person just because you don't want to connect with an abuser. It's perfectly fine to not call your mother on mother's day if you don't have the kind of relationship that will benefit from it.

100%, thank you for voicing this.
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