I am responsible for what happens to me. (I.e. I am not a victim.) Accepting responsibility is very empowering, as it implies I can do something about it. Being a victim is dis-empowering, as it means you are helpless. (People who read my posts will recognize this as a consistent theme. Being a victim is a choice. I choose not to be.)
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#512"If you want to work at a company, dress like the people that work there. Because those are the people that the company hires."
I've used this general philosophy in my life to pass courses at university, win competitions, and get through job interviews. I don't know if my grandmother meant this in a literal sense, or was hinting at the fact that (as Tony Robbins says) success leaves clues. When you understand what people are looking for, the game becomes a lot easier - you simply need to mould yourself and your communication to fit a winning persona.
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#513Earlier quoted context omitted.
Worse yet, most people have bad taste and actually can't tell good and bad design work apart, so you're really spending all that effort to please a minority that you're unfortunate enough to be part of. https://xkcd.com/1015/
Even worse is when you think you’re part of the minority but aren’t.
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#5141. Getting Things Done (David Allen) as a system to organize and reorganize my life, 2. How to win friends and influence people (Dale Carnegie), as a way of treating other people
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#515Favor interrogative-led questions over leading questions. A leading question attempts to get the listener to agree or disagree with a premise you feed to them. An interrogative-led question often begins with the words: who; where; what; when; why. Imagine the responses to these two questions: - "Did you like the movie?" (Leading) - "What did you think about the movie?" (Interrogative-led) How do each of these questio…
I hear suggestions like this occasionally, and I don't get it. Apparently sentences like "Did you like the movie?", which sound to me like perfectly neutral questions, actually have a slant. Which way is this question leading me to answer? How can I tell? "Yes" and "No" seem equally acceptable answers here. I don't see how either one would "displease the asker", without knowing more about the situation.
Makes the question more open ended and encourages the person to dig deep for answers and think critically.
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#516Adults are just winging it. The ones who don't seem like they are pretend the hardest.
The world is only as cruel as you help make it. Be kind.
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#517Don't worry about remembering facts; instead, seek to understand how and why things are the way they are. By understanding deeper reasons behind things, the facts will make contextual sense, and will be much easier to recall, or if necessary, to deduce. This can apply essentially anywhere, from physics formulas to historical events to programming conventions to political actions.
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#518Everything is temporary. This is a central tenet in a variety of approaches and philosophies, from religions (it's one of the Marks of Existence in Buddhism) to cognitive behavioral therapy — but few ideas have changed my thinking, resilience, self-control, and happiness as much as this one.
Therefore, at some point, some thing(s) will be permanent, because otherwise, the axiom "Everything is temporary" would be permanent.
Oh crap. :-D
Re: Ask HN: Name one idea that changed your life
#519My Grandmother once told me: "If you want to work at a company, dress like the people that work there. Because those are the people that the company hires." I've used this general philosophy in my life to pass courses at university, win competitions, and get through job interviews. I don't know if my grandmother meant this in a literal sense, or was hinting at the fact that (as Tony Robbins says) success leaves clues…