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I find some of these disingenuous: > Unfortunately, I won’t be able to make it to [Event] on [date]. But thanks again for sending an invitation my way. That's not saying "No". That's giving an excuse as to why you can't make it. Better to say "No, I'm not interested" or something along those lines.
There's no excuse there. It's simply a polite way to decline an invitation.
Most of these examples aren't that great, and it could've been delivered as a blog post.
This is great, but needs 31 more ways to say no to recruiters :)
Simple, to the point, takes 3 seconds to copy/paste and help recruiters to move on to the next person.
If I was a recruiter I think I'd rather receive a rejection email than no answer.
A lesson I learned from a sales friend of mine (often the hard way): if you really want to say no, don't give reasons why you're saying no. Just simply say "no, sorry" Once you start giving your reasoning, the other side can negotiate a compromise or attempt to persuade you into thinking your no is a bad idea. The more information you provide, the more they can use it against you. If you don't have time for that, jus…
Realize that the other person is free to ask anything they want, but just the act of them asking doesn't create any obligation on your part. Especially with people where you don't have a longstanding relationship, you don't owe anyone anything more than a polite no.
The other piece I learned was this useful phrase to deploy when under severe pressure to give a reason and for whatever reason you can't just disengage or leave: "Sorry, I'm just not comfortable with that". No one can reasonably argue with that, and if they do, having already given your reason you can then simply fall back into a loop of "No, sorry."
A lesson I learned from a sales friend of mine (often the hard way): if you really want to say no, don't give reasons why you're saying no. Just simply say "no, sorry" Once you start giving your reasoning, the other side can negotiate a compromise or attempt to persuade you into thinking your no is a bad idea. The more information you provide, the more they can use it against you. If you don't have time for that, jus…
I took a communication class many years ago and this was the main thing I took away from it. If you give a reason or an excuse the other person will try to help you "solve" it. If you give a simple "no, sorry" or "no, thanks" there's nothing for them to latch onto or argue with. Realize that the other person is free to ask anything they want, but just the act of them asking doesn't create any obligation on your part.…
A lesson I learned from a sales friend of mine (often the hard way): if you really want to say no, don't give reasons why you're saying no. Just simply say "no, sorry" Once you start giving your reasoning, the other side can negotiate a compromise or attempt to persuade you into thinking your no is a bad idea. The more information you provide, the more they can use it against you. If you don't have time for that, jus…
I took a communication class many years ago and this was the main thing I took away from it. If you give a reason or an excuse the other person will try to help you "solve" it. If you give a simple "no, sorry" or "no, thanks" there's nothing for them to latch onto or argue with. Realize that the other person is free to ask anything they want, but just the act of them asking doesn't create any obligation on your part.…
It's like going to knife-fighting class to learn how to win every knife fight and receive "buy a gun" advice. Yes, it works. But it's not really a knife-fighting skill, is it?
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I took a communication class many years ago and this was the main thing I took away from it. If you give a reason or an excuse the other person will try to help you "solve" it. If you give a simple "no, sorry" or "no, thanks" there's nothing for them to latch onto or argue with. Realize that the other person is free to ask anything they want, but just the act of them asking doesn't create any obligation on your part.…
You took communication class and main thing you got out of it was how to not to communicate? It's like going to knife-fighting class to learn how to win every knife fight and receive "buy a gun" advice. Yes, it works. But it's not really a knife-fighting skill, is it?
WRT GP's comment, what they described is communication. It's precise communication. Saying exactly what you mean and nothing more. Not falling to some kind of instinctive save-face pressure and inventing a bullshit reason, that only leaves you worse off (you now either have to defend from your interlocutor's attempts at helping you, or admit that you've lied).
(To use a knife-fighting analogy, it's like learning to thrust without making it easy for your opponent to dodge your attack and cut you up.)
Earlier quoted context omitted.
I took a communication class many years ago and this was the main thing I took away from it. If you give a reason or an excuse the other person will try to help you "solve" it. If you give a simple "no, sorry" or "no, thanks" there's nothing for them to latch onto or argue with. Realize that the other person is free to ask anything they want, but just the act of them asking doesn't create any obligation on your part.…
You took communication class and main thing you got out of it was how to not to communicate? It's like going to knife-fighting class to learn how to win every knife fight and receive "buy a gun" advice. Yes, it works. But it's not really a knife-fighting skill, is it?