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Does anyone remember that FB feature when you were able to cross search people? "Men between 20 and 30 who likes football and lives in NYC" It was available for a few months, I don't remember exactly. That was around 2011-12. That was the craziest thing I've ever seen
One part of this still infuriates me and restricts my behavior on the platform (which I barely interact with anymore): showing my friends what I click like on if it's a public post. I've had politically-impassioned relatives attack me for liking candidates they don't like or if I comment on a public post and Facebook points my comment out to them. It also works the other way too. I really didn't need to know that my…
I’ve even blocked my own mom for lecturing me about the silly memes that I post.
One part of this still infuriates me and restricts my behavior on the platform (which I barely interact with anymore): showing my friends what I click like on if it's a public post. I've had politically-impassioned relatives attack me for liking candidates they don't like or if I comment on a public post and Facebook points my comment out to them. It also works the other way too. I really didn't need to know that my…
Thats exactly the problem with Facebook - no firewalls between the various personas of an individual.
When Facebook/Gmail happened and people were nudged to use their real names... because we need `real` connections. Well, that didn't tipped enough of us. Facebook was the tinder of the day, right ?
But then the whole privacy thing came back to bite us hard (and will bite harder in the coming years).
So we are back to using pseudonyms (which according to my friend's 11yo daughter's guide to the Internet everyone should use anyway) as the default. Except for professional things. We need a professional Internet presence, hello LinkedIn and $name $familyname + 'pro' Facebook account.
Now there was an argument that with everything in the open then people would get more tolerant about other's mischievings and out-of-the-accepted-norm behavior. Big nope as a whole it turned out.
Anyway, youth of today have figured it out years ago and just have multiple personas with different accounts.
With different accounts, not with different circles or different sharing settings. And of course with silly names.
Like you said Facebook isn't designed around the various personas of an individual but increasingly during the last decade the whole Internet community makers (software builders and evangelists and users) were misled on the `true identity` thing and we are only slowly assessing the damage and recovering.
What I mean to say is: everyone was on board with not having various personas. Latest large scale attempt to overcome this failed hard (Google's circles) because people don't want to micro-manage their online Rolodex and it turns out you can't trust Google to respect that firewall anyway (see the cases about people being outed as transgenders).
Only pseudonyms and different accounts can alleviate that and it's going to happen more because most of people will get back to that mindset.
Does anyone remember that FB feature when you were able to cross search people? "Men between 20 and 30 who likes football and lives in NYC" It was available for a few months, I don't remember exactly. That was around 2011-12. That was the craziest thing I've ever seen
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My word, I remember years back when I didn't realise that this was a thing, and it took my mate showing me his feed filled with me liking a whole load of random sexy filth pages. I remember commenting wondering if my mum could see all the shit I'd liked, to which she responded "yep.". Absolutely mortified mate.
That is exactly why I ended up leaving Twitter. As soon as Twitter started showing me everything my friend marked with a “like” (Favourite? Star?), I started seeing explicit examples of my friends’ kinks.
Does anyone remember that FB feature when you were able to cross search people? "Men between 20 and 30 who likes football and lives in NYC" It was available for a few months, I don't remember exactly. That was around 2011-12. That was the craziest thing I've ever seen
The year may be wrong, but based on what I was studying at the time, and my relationship status, that's probably the timeframe.
One part of this still infuriates me and restricts my behavior on the platform (which I barely interact with anymore): showing my friends what I click like on if it's a public post. I've had politically-impassioned relatives attack me for liking candidates they don't like or if I comment on a public post and Facebook points my comment out to them. It also works the other way too. I really didn't need to know that my…
Thats exactly the problem with Facebook - no firewalls between the various personas of an individual.
Check out this post for example: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=9454734