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You sound like me a couple of years ago until I realized I was the problem the whole while Why was I contributing to this madness when I knew better? So I took the show directly to the client and never looked back I'd love to elaborate but it sounds like you have a journey ahead of you before you can appreciate what I have to say
What you describe makes me think that you pivoted from an engineering role into a product role in order to make agile to work for you. This only reaffirms what I said, because if agile really empowered you as an engineer that transition would not have happened.
The difference is that the emphasis is on knowledge creation and relationship building
Believe me that there is a way to do the right thing by everyone but most people set themselves up for failure at the outset
It's both way simpler and much more complex than most people can truly appreciate