School zones often play a part in the decision. With massive disparities in funding between even relatively close school zones where you live can have a large impact on your children. So often parents are forced to commute so that their kids can attend a good school. This is very unfortunate and likely a direct result of the way we fund schools in the US, but its reality for many.
One could of course argue that more time with their parents is crucial for the child as well and that is absolutely correct. My main concern though is that my kids are safe and well looked after during the time they are away from me though.
Now if I was a young single person, I would absolutely choose living in a studio a block from work over commuting an hour each way to a larger house in the suburbs. With kids other factors take precedence.
Now I am lucky enough to work remotely and it is indeed the 'bees knees'.