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Think you want to die at home? You might want to think twice about that

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Re: Think you want to die at home? You might want to think twice about that

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I've had the privilege of seeing my parents take care of two of my grandparents in my parents' home after my grandparents couldn't take care of themselves any more. (In one case, for their final week, in the other case, for over 5 years.)

I look forward to taking care of my parents in my home whenever they get to that point.

Re: Think you want to die at home? You might want to think twice about that

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As the article states, every situation is unique.

Would I want to die a home if I had a brain tumor that was causing me to act violent and I wasn't lucid? No, I would want to be a facility.

Would I want to die at home if I had a heart issue that would leave me bedridden but lucid and I would likely just fade away? Sure.

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I've had the privilege of seeing my parents take care of two of my grandparents in my parents' home after my grandparents couldn't take care of themselves any more. (In one case, for their final week, in the other case, for over 5 years.) I look forward to taking care of my parents in my home whenever they get to that point.

Same here. I just hope we can get assisted suicide for more situations to help ease the passing. I wouldn’t want to occupy my kids’ time if there’s no hope of independent living again.

Re: Think you want to die at home? You might want to think twice about that

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I've had the privilege of seeing my parents take care of two of my grandparents in my parents' home after my grandparents couldn't take care of themselves any more. (In one case, for their final week, in the other case, for over 5 years.) I look forward to taking care of my parents in my home whenever they get to that point.

> I've had the privilege of seeing my parents take care of two of my grandparents in my parents' home after my grandparents couldn't take care of themselves any more. (In one case, for their final week, in the other case, for over 5 years.)

> I look forward to taking care of my parents in my home whenever they get to that point.

I am living this privilege and wouldn't trade it for anything. But something in you changes the first time you have to help your parent out of clothes they pooped in and into the shower. I wasn't prepared for it when it happened, but I believe it has made me stronger (and if anything, dealing with an adult with a decaying mental state feels like good practice for dealing with a teenager). I am so thankful to work in tech where my physical presence is not a necessity and so I can be more present with my family, but sadly this is not true for too many.

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I feel like more people should consider euthanasia. If caring for you is a huge physical and financial burden, and you're basically waiting to die anyway , why not just get it over with?

Assisted suicide is illegal throughout most of the USA so it's not even an option. Also, many people just aren't in a rush to die. Whatever your beliefs, one thing for certain is that it's a permanent and irreversible transition of some kind. It's unsettling, at least on primal levels.

Re: Think you want to die at home? You might want to think twice about that

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I feel like more people should consider euthanasia. If caring for you is a huge physical and financial burden, and you're basically waiting to die anyway , why not just get it over with?

> I feel like more people should consider euthanasia. If caring for you is a huge physical and financial burden, and you're basically waiting to die anyway, why not just get it over with?

Most of the elderly (about 6 people) with whom I've spoken are disgusted at even mentioning something like this (70-85 year old men and women from western Europe). This sentiment may change as new cohorts age out.

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