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I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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A couple of years ago I was pretty addicted to Facebook and would compulsively open a new tab and start typing "f..." in the address bar. Even if I had another tab with Facebook open. I tried blocking it for lapses of time but it didn't reduce my addiction. What did work was logging out of Facebook. The annoyance of having to log in and stop my flow was enough for me to stop using Facebook. Now I use it less than onc…

Bingo. I did quit facebook by changing my password to a long random string that I had noted down on paper but not ever saved in the pass manager, together with auto deleting the cookies every day at 12AM.

The sheer annoyance to re-log-in made me quit FB in about a week.

Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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https://www.well.com/

It’s unclear to me what that -is-. Is it just a paid forum?

Yes, mainly, but it used to offer a bit more than that, not sure of the current status.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_WELL

Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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Kinda reminiscent of advice I’ve overheard for breaking up with a narcissist: make them break up with you by being boring.

This is the 'Grey Rock' strategy: > So, how do we escape this parasitical leech without triggering his vindictive rage? Gray Rock is primarily a way of encouraging a psychopath, a stalker or other emotionally unbalanced person, to lose interest in you. It differs from No Contact in that you don’t overtly try to avoid contact with these emotional vampires. Instead, you allow contact but only give boring, monotonous re…

> his mind is re-trained to expect boredom rather than drama

> he will find a new person to provide drama and he will find himself drawn to you less and less often

> he can’t stand boredom

Unnecessarily gendered language is jarring for the reader and also, (possibly) unintentionally, sexist. The singular they/them/their is generally acceptable to use in cases such as these.

Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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post #333

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This is the 'Grey Rock' strategy: > So, how do we escape this parasitical leech without triggering his vindictive rage? Gray Rock is primarily a way of encouraging a psychopath, a stalker or other emotionally unbalanced person, to lose interest in you. It differs from No Contact in that you don’t overtly try to avoid contact with these emotional vampires. Instead, you allow contact but only give boring, monotonous re…

Sounds effective, but I wonder where the author got that definition of "psychopath".

The author was concerned with true psychopaths (in the clinical sense), but I guess this timid tactic is as usable towards the narcissistic types.

Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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I wrote an extension for this since I couldn't find a good one for Firefox. Feature and pull requests welcome https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/delaywebpage/

Just what I was looking for! Thanks for this add on. For me youtube.com would still be extremely important. I set the blue window with the text to white and deleted the text, it's too embarrassing to have the big blue text on my screen.

I'll add youtube to the list! Hm, I hadn't thought of that angle, maybe a white background and small text is a better default

Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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post #253

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Not using Chrome?

> Not using Chrome? A truly deplorable act... I also added about 30 seconds of latency to every page I visit, but for completely different reasons as op. Switching to Brave and blocking all cookies and JS by default made me have to manually enable it for nearly every site that I actually wanted to use. About a week later, Chrome was reinstalled. Maybe I'll try it again once I level up my willpower.

I have 15 whitelisted sites. I think it took negligible effort to add them, you whitelist a site once and it stays there from there on.

Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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Not using Chrome?

Is it just me or has the web's compatibility with Firefox taken a nosedive recently? It used to just be my employer's HR software that was chrome-only, but in the last year my power utility website, apartment complex website, and even major websites like https://www.deviantart.com/ (which I was trying to visit just 10 minutes ago) have broken in Firefox but not chrome. Badly, too. These aren't "the layout is differen…

Consider submitting a bug ticket. You are the customer after all.

Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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post #333

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This is the 'Grey Rock' strategy: > So, how do we escape this parasitical leech without triggering his vindictive rage? Gray Rock is primarily a way of encouraging a psychopath, a stalker or other emotionally unbalanced person, to lose interest in you. It differs from No Contact in that you don’t overtly try to avoid contact with these emotional vampires. Instead, you allow contact but only give boring, monotonous re…

> his mind is re-trained to expect boredom rather than drama > he will find a new person to provide drama and he will find himself drawn to you less and less often > he can’t stand boredom Unnecessarily gendered language is jarring for the reader and also, (possibly) unintentionally, sexist. The singular they/them/their is generally acceptable to use in cases such as these.

I noticed the same thing. Maybe I should have got a quote from elsewhere as it's not particularly well written. Nevertheless, it still gets the concept across.

Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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Not an uncommon practice, Jeff Atwood calls it "hellbanning": https://blog.codinghorror.com/suspension-ban-or-hellban/

No, he calls it slowbanning. Hellbanning is when you let them keep posting but other people can’t see the posts. Hackernews hellbans as well and you can see the comments from the deplorables if you turn on “showdead” in your profile.

Let me check it. If you see this pls vote or reply.

Re: I Add 3-25 Seconds of Latency to Every Site I Visit

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post #333

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This is the 'Grey Rock' strategy: > So, how do we escape this parasitical leech without triggering his vindictive rage? Gray Rock is primarily a way of encouraging a psychopath, a stalker or other emotionally unbalanced person, to lose interest in you. It differs from No Contact in that you don’t overtly try to avoid contact with these emotional vampires. Instead, you allow contact but only give boring, monotonous re…

> his mind is re-trained to expect boredom rather than drama > he will find a new person to provide drama and he will find himself drawn to you less and less often > he can’t stand boredom Unnecessarily gendered language is jarring for the reader and also, (possibly) unintentionally, sexist. The singular they/them/their is generally acceptable to use in cases such as these.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_differences_in_narcissism
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