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Re: Bail – Get out of your plans, guilt free

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Post by saber6 »

kerkeslager wrote: post #23

I can't imagine being friends with someone who is this incapable of communicating. The solution to this problem is sending a text that says, "Hey, I'm not feeling like coming out today after all. Rain check?" This app is a worse solution than the obvious solution. Trying to be empathetic: if you feel the need to use something like this, I'm not qualified to diagnose you as having social anxiety, but I would suggest y…

To be fair I think this falls into the category of "ugh I'm not really feeling like going out... and I don't want to disappoint my friend.... if only I knew he wasn't too hot to trot tonight as well..."

But I understand your point and agree with you. I prefer direct communication. If you don't want to hang out just say so - I like clarity.

Re: Bail – Get out of your plans, guilt free

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Post by rmetzler »

lostcolony wrote: post #18
leetrout wrote: post #6

This is a little bit sad and a little bit scary. Have we reached the point where we now prefer to avoid actual communications with our "friends" that this exists? It's up there with people who won't answer phone calls and only want to text.

That's not the reason. Telling a friend you want to cancel is hard, and depressing, and so you oftentimes go just to not bail on them. And hate it. But what if your friend is feeling the same way? What if you both want to cancel, but neither of you wants to hurt the other person. Well, with something like this, you can bail without letting them down; they only know you wanted to bail -if they also want to bail-. That…

Are you sure you call that person a friend when you both hate what you do together?

Re: Bail – Get out of your plans, guilt free

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Post by dpeck »

it's weird to see social anxiety as a "popular" thing in culture now. Is it a humble brag as an easy way to have social-proof of having plans and people who want to hang out with the them, while not having to "document" that they actually do?

Re: Bail – Get out of your plans, guilt free

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Post by _vertigo »

blast wrote: post #30

This is like Bang With Friends. Whatever happened to that thing? https://www.businessinsider.com/bang-with-friends-co-founder... Maybe it should be called Bail With Friends.

I like Bail On Friends better, in part because it partially increases the guilt factor back to where it should be.

"I'm gonna have to bail" vs "I'm gonna have to bail _on you_" feels different to me

Re: Bail – Get out of your plans, guilt free

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Post by Andrew44 »

One problem I can see is this: If I was the one who made the plan in the first place, I could hit the "Bail" button just to see whether my friend secretly wanted to bail and then I could call them up on it... This would result in things being more awkward than just having a frank conversation in the first place!

Re: Bail – Get out of your plans, guilt free

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Post by [deleted] »

busterarm wrote: post #17

Some folks I knew who rented an apartment in East Village to do their own startup had this exact same idea with this exact same name back in '14. I don't think they lasted very long with it and all ended up getting jobs, but this did at least make me check if this was the same folks. Edit: That said, I would pay to use this if it were done well and if I could get all my friends to use it.

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