Seems strange and impersonal, but I know JD a bit and he's a great guy, so I imagine that this is one of those stories that sounds more dramatic than it really is.
I pay my wife to do my laundry
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#22The title is a bit too much in my opinion. I regularly come across couples where expenses are taken note of, and the wife has to pay back the half of it in case she doesn't have money. (Not necessarily the women owes money, but men tend to be more money-centric in my observations.)
And when I say half, I really mean it. If a bread cost $1.4 3 weeks ago (in Middle Europe at least, converted to USD), she is in debt of $0.7. This situation is supposed to be rare, but who knows.
I also heard another story, where the husband earned some decent amount of cash, the wife was at home with the child getting national aid only. The man told her to get back to work or he won't pay the bills.
I don't know where this twisted way of thinking comes from, but it's really depressing. And there are more and more people who wouldn't enter marriage without a written contract.
I just can't understand.
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#23Important man: I am the head of my household! I make all the important decisions such as our family's position on the world's important political, economic, and cultural issues.
My wife makes all the little decisions. Like where we'll live, how we'll spend our money, what we'll eat, and where our kids go to school.
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#24Important man: I am the head of my household! I make all the important decisions such as our family's position on the world's important political, economic, and cultural issues. My wife makes all the little decisions. Like where we'll live, how we'll spend our money, what we'll eat, and where our kids go to school.
The original author would deserve the credit, but upvoted for being relevant. :)
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#25Earlier quoted context omitted.
They must be very trusting (or have typically financially literate wives). If I were to do this, it'd confirm the worst: I'd gone insane.. :-)
In Japan that's the default. Wife takes care of the budget and gives a monthly "allowance" to the husband. I don't know what you mean by financially literate, but they don't have to know much about investments or interest rates. Their job is to set a budget and stick to it every month. Most people will avoid getting deep into debt except for large purchases such as a house or a car, and savings account's interest rat…
> In Japan that's the default. Wife takes care of the budget and gives a monthly "allowance" to the husband.
That sounds familiar. When I worked in Seoul at a Korean company, the smaller unscheduled bonuses were rewarded in cash. That way the husbands who so desired could go to hostess clubs and room salons on their own dime without the knowledge of their wives, who held the purse strings.
There are plenty of apparent paradoxes like this in Korean society. As a generalization, the men are deeply devoted to their wives and family and will kill themselves at work to afford extra tuition for their pre-school children. But many of them see no contradiction between that level of devotion and letting off steam with prostitutes once a month at hwaeshik.
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#26Must not be Asian. My friends give their wives all their money.
> My friends give their wives all their money. Isn't this how things are done in a normal relation? I mean not necessarily giving the money to your wife, but having both yours and your wife's money in the same pool.
My wife and I each have our own accounts, and we both contribute to a joint pool as well.
The joint pool covers kid-related expenses, housing, food, utilities, one vacation per year, and retirement savings. Our own pools cover our respective cars, dining/entertainment budgets, jewelry, clothes, extra savings, extra vacation, whatever.
It works out really nicely because we don't have to negotiate with each other about anything other than the essentials.
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#27This seems foolish from a purely financial standpoint. Often times interest rates are tiered and you can get significantly higher rates with the more money you have in a single account. They should combine them. They could keep pretending they have separate accounts and just write checks for what they owe, just have it come out of a single savings account.
I'd gladly pay the loss of interest rate for the added convenience of not having an excel spreadsheet which needs to be updated at every purchase.
Mint will update that spreadsheet for you.
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#28> Because I like to dine out more than Kris does, for instance, I pay for most of our restaurant meals. In return, she pays for most of the groceries.
I do something similar with my housemates. They usually buy the meat, because I don't like to pay for good stuff. I usually buy the milk and vegetables. It's not an explicit agreement, that's just how it happened.
It actually works out the same as if I was paying more for meat than I want to. But I'm happier than I would be in that situation.
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#29Seems strange and impersonal, but I know JD a bit and he's a great guy, so I imagine that this is one of those stories that sounds more dramatic than it really is.
I fail to see anything dramatic in this particular story. He an his wife are happy. They don't reproach or regret. They feel honest about themselves.
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#30Seems strange and impersonal, but I know JD a bit and he's a great guy, so I imagine that this is one of those stories that sounds more dramatic than it really is.
I fail to see anything dramatic in this particular story. He an his wife are happy. They don't reproach or regret. They feel honest about themselves.
Well though the story isn't dramatic, the article title is crafted to be linkbait, so it sounds more dramatic than it really is.