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Re: Inlu.st - new dating startup

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Post by tomh- »

juliamae wrote: post #49
acangiano wrote: post #46

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What you are trying to do is admirable, and I understood what you meant with that original line. It didn't however convey what you probably meant. I would write something along the lines of, "she was known among her friends for her ability to meet great guys online with which she developed deep emotional connections". Or something like that. You are now qualifying that you had the ability to find the right type of gu…

excellent feedback; i'll definitely qualify that line with something more meaningful. as for the name, i'm actually specifically not going after a geeky crowd (which is why my heart kinda fell out of my chest when i saw it was submitted to HN) and am initially going for younger, artistic, NYC singles. the name is designed to attract the kind of people i want on the site for now.

That sounds exactly the kind of crowd that doesn't need dating sites, especially in NY, the supposed best city for singles (http://www.forbes.com/2009/07/27/best-cities-singles-lifesty...). Any reason why you are going for that?

Re: Inlu.st - new dating startup

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Post by tibbon »

tomh- wrote: post #61
juliamae wrote: post #49

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excellent feedback; i'll definitely qualify that line with something more meaningful. as for the name, i'm actually specifically not going after a geeky crowd (which is why my heart kinda fell out of my chest when i saw it was submitted to HN) and am initially going for younger, artistic, NYC singles. the name is designed to attract the kind of people i want on the site for now.

That sounds exactly the kind of crowd that doesn't need dating sites, especially in NY, the supposed best city for singles ( http://www.forbes.com/2009/07/27/best-cities-singles-lifesty... ). Any reason why you are going for that?

Best city still doesn't make it terribly easy always. Some times of year like the winter are outright unfun much of the time and meeting people online is still easier occasionally.

Re: Inlu.st - new dating startup

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Post by sfphotoarts »

tibbon wrote: post #42
marquis wrote: post #38

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Online dating is harder than you think for women also. If you stick with the mainstream sites you lose interest VERY quickly with the unwelcome attention. So if Julia has spent a lot of time and energy in this area she'll be an expert in how to create a site that works, and keeps women interested. This is a prime example where we need more women in tech - to build these subtle tools with direct insight for the target…

Right on. Its not hard to meet random people, but its very hard to meet awesome people that you actually feel like spending time around.

that's because 'online' doesn't do much selective filtering. Lets say you go the symphony (of the orchestral type, not the framework) and meet some boys. You are selecting, let's say you go a coffee shop in the Mission, or Lower Haight, again you are selecting. Sitting in Dolores park on a sunny sunday afternoon automatically selects certain demographics. When you look for boys or girls online you use primitive criteria for selection which results in poor matching. Facebook is a much better dating site because groups are more organic, formed by real people coming together around common values.

I am rather surprised that Julia has any problems meeting boys, I'm sure she could just sit in a coffee shop in the Mission with a laptop (preferably with a few stickers, including the obligatory CC) and be approached by decent young men all day.

Re: Inlu.st - new dating startup

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Post by juliamae »

tomh- wrote: post #61
juliamae wrote: post #49

Earlier quoted context omitted.

excellent feedback; i'll definitely qualify that line with something more meaningful. as for the name, i'm actually specifically not going after a geeky crowd (which is why my heart kinda fell out of my chest when i saw it was submitted to HN) and am initially going for younger, artistic, NYC singles. the name is designed to attract the kind of people i want on the site for now.

That sounds exactly the kind of crowd that doesn't need dating sites, especially in NY, the supposed best city for singles ( http://www.forbes.com/2009/07/27/best-cities-singles-lifesty... ). Any reason why you are going for that?

note that nyc is number 1 for "online dating." there is a reason for that. nyc has a lot of people in it. sifting through those people is hard.

Re: Inlu.st - new dating startup

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Post by weeksie »

silverlake wrote: post #58
weeksie wrote: post #53

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Awesome, I'm really excited to see what you guys come up with. Also, I'd definitely be interested in trading some guest blog posts at some point. On the off chance that you're NYC based as well we should totally grab drinks and talk shop sometime. And the pic on the front is my girl and I. Glad you like it :)

Will I need abs like yours to sign up for the site? Mine are bit more... spongy.

Ha! No, there's no ab requirement ;)

Re: Inlu.st - new dating startup

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Post by juliamae »

sfphotoarts wrote: post #63
tibbon wrote: post #42

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Right on. Its not hard to meet random people, but its very hard to meet awesome people that you actually feel like spending time around.

that's because 'online' doesn't do much selective filtering. Lets say you go the symphony (of the orchestral type, not the framework) and meet some boys. You are selecting , let's say you go a coffee shop in the Mission, or Lower Haight, again you are selecting. Sitting in Dolores park on a sunny sunday afternoon automatically selects certain demographics. When you look for boys or girls online you use primitive crit…

i don't have a problem meeting guys. i have a problem meeting guys that i feel any lust for. that's a big problem among the people i know who are looking for lovers on- and offline.

however, i hear the odds are much better for single women in SF than NYC. so if this site doesn't work out for me, i know where i'm moving next..

Re: Inlu.st - new dating startup

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Post by marquis »

sfphotoarts wrote: post #63
tibbon wrote: post #42

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Right on. Its not hard to meet random people, but its very hard to meet awesome people that you actually feel like spending time around.

that's because 'online' doesn't do much selective filtering. Lets say you go the symphony (of the orchestral type, not the framework) and meet some boys. You are selecting , let's say you go a coffee shop in the Mission, or Lower Haight, again you are selecting. Sitting in Dolores park on a sunny sunday afternoon automatically selects certain demographics. When you look for boys or girls online you use primitive crit…

>be approached by decent young men all day

I wish! I am in cafe right now surrounded by decent young men and all we do is glance at each other's laptops and smartphones.

Re: Inlu.st - new dating startup

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Post by juliamae »

weeksie wrote: post #53
juliamae wrote: post #52

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cool, i haven't heard of heyfoxy, but i love the image on the front page. i'll check it out. there is a focus on sexuality, but it is not a hookup site anymore than reddit or tumblr are hookup sites. i don't see us as competitors, i see us as friends!

Awesome, I'm really excited to see what you guys come up with. Also, I'd definitely be interested in trading some guest blog posts at some point. On the off chance that you're NYC based as well we should totally grab drinks and talk shop sometime. And the pic on the front is my girl and I. Glad you like it :)

actually, i am in nyc! drinks sometime would be excellent - drop me an email at my HN username @gmail.

i checked out your blog and we definitely share a lot of the same ideals about sex- very cool. as a heads up, your blog's RSS feed is broken right now.

Re: Inlu.st - new dating startup

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Post by omarchowdhury »

marquis wrote: post #67
sfphotoarts wrote: post #63

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that's because 'online' doesn't do much selective filtering. Lets say you go the symphony (of the orchestral type, not the framework) and meet some boys. You are selecting , let's say you go a coffee shop in the Mission, or Lower Haight, again you are selecting. Sitting in Dolores park on a sunny sunday afternoon automatically selects certain demographics. When you look for boys or girls online you use primitive crit…

>be approached by decent young men all day I wish! I am in cafe right now surrounded by decent young men and all we do is glance at each other's laptops and smartphones.

So why don't you approach?
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