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Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by toohotatopic »

haihaibye wrote: post #219
toohotatopic wrote: post #163

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That's called operating an additional processing unit. You use AWS to quickly bootstrap a company, why not bootstrap a family? After all, genes can change a bit of the temperament of a person, but in the end, it's all about education and training. The ultimate father is the one who has risen the child, not the one who made the hardware. (Or Luke would have chosen the dark side.)

Most estimates for life outcome are ~50% genetics, 5-15% parental/teacher influence and the rest unknown.

I guess that's because IQ is determining so much when it comes to success. Yet that only leaves 25% to the father's genes.

When it comes to the 5-15% parental/teacher influence, that is the average influence. If the father has nothing to offer to teach, keeping genes alive is all he can do. Compare this to the difference a good coach makes to a team, be it sports or anything else.

Add to this that people date similarly intelligent partners, and the genetic influence should melt down. Furthermore, most of the unknown rest lies within the influence of the parents. By choosing the neighborhood, the parents decide which friends they meet and how they can spend their time.

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Post by riversflow »

brailsafe wrote: post #23
swsieber wrote: post #7

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It might also attract attractive people tired of vapid interactions. I think you'll get all sorts of people.

As an attractive person, I can say that we never get tired of vapid interactions ;)

Maybe you don’t. I am already tired of it and I’m not even 30.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by sreyaNotfilc »

firefoxd wrote: post #142

Close to two years ago, there was a show HN for a dating app posted here. I signed up, found a couple bugs, reported them, then deleted the app. Couple month later, I got an email saying that I got a match. Downloaded it again, had a very nice conversation, but I was not attracted. I went to the settings, selected 25 miles radius and Black only. The next match I got was not Black, and over a thousand miles. Now we ar…

I really like that idea a lot!

I know, for me, when dating either I cannot think of things to say, or the date couldn't think of things to say. When you're on your computer (or phone) you have tons of time to get things moving.

I have a lot of ideas now from the one you stemmed. Maybe I'll be the one who builds this. I am in the middle of another site, but this would be fun to try as well. If it every turns into something, I'll make sure to look you up and thank you .

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by mattrp »

firefoxd wrote: post #142

Close to two years ago, there was a show HN for a dating app posted here. I signed up, found a couple bugs, reported them, then deleted the app. Couple month later, I got an email saying that I got a match. Downloaded it again, had a very nice conversation, but I was not attracted. I went to the settings, selected 25 miles radius and Black only. The next match I got was not Black, and over a thousand miles. Now we ar…

My wife and I met via a dating app in 2000. This was back in the day when you might have 40 women in total in a given metro area participating. Anyway, what you wrote about what dating sites don’t do (advice on etiquette etc) also resonated with me. I remember not long after my wife and I started dating I went out and spent about a thousand bucks on new clothes and another $600 on new glasses. I showed up to our next date impressed with myself. She was like hey nice glasses but where on earth did you find these clothes? I told her and she said ok don’t do that again, let me help you. I could have been angry... she could have said nothing and never gone out with me again... one thing I see with my friends who 20 years later who still have no spouse is that they all end their relationships before they get to the point of candor without consequences. It’s sad that some people jump right to intimacy but they aren’t even willing to say to that person hey you might want to pluck your eyebrows. Honestly I don’t think even if a dating site did give this advice people would even follow it but I have to say they probably should!

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by mattrp »

UweSchmidt wrote: post #167
firefoxd wrote: post #142

Close to two years ago, there was a show HN for a dating app posted here. I signed up, found a couple bugs, reported them, then deleted the app. Couple month later, I got an email saying that I got a match. Downloaded it again, had a very nice conversation, but I was not attracted. I went to the settings, selected 25 miles radius and Black only. The next match I got was not Black, and over a thousand miles. Now we ar…

I propose a paid service with a human operator who suggests matches and sends people on appropriate dates. You get one match, go on the date and report back how it went, and get a new match based on both of your feedback. "That person was a little crazy" -> get someone more boring next time. The date you get sent on is engaging and topical: a dance class or a tennis class or a guided tour in a museum, something that'…

This exists and if you thought dealing with recruiters and job interviews was bad wait until you try a matchmaker. We paid for a friend to use one and I think she would have rather gone to a bar - at least there you know why you struck out.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by brailsafe »

riversflow wrote: post #222
brailsafe wrote: post #23

Earlier quoted context omitted.

As an attractive person, I can say that we never get tired of vapid interactions ;)

Maybe you don’t. I am already tired of it and I’m not even 30.

I was being facetious, but as an under 30 as well I do agree vapid interactions are tiresome. I'd draw a distinction between compliments or attention and wholely vapid interactions though. I don't know that I've had what I'd call a prolonged interaction or investment of my time solely based on looks, because there isn't much material to go on just based on that. Usually short lived interactions and such. Maybe as a woman this would be more extensive.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by firefoxd »

mattrp wrote: post #225
firefoxd wrote: post #142

Close to two years ago, there was a show HN for a dating app posted here. I signed up, found a couple bugs, reported them, then deleted the app. Couple month later, I got an email saying that I got a match. Downloaded it again, had a very nice conversation, but I was not attracted. I went to the settings, selected 25 miles radius and Black only. The next match I got was not Black, and over a thousand miles. Now we ar…

My wife and I met via a dating app in 2000. This was back in the day when you might have 40 women in total in a given metro area participating. Anyway, what you wrote about what dating sites don’t do (advice on etiquette etc) also resonated with me. I remember not long after my wife and I started dating I went out and spent about a thousand bucks on new clothes and another $600 on new glasses. I showed up to our next…

Love your story. And I think room for mistakes or for people to be people, is crucial to creating relationships. This lacks in modern apps, where the tiniest physical flaw makes us swipe away, and a beautified instagram like profile gets all the attention.

If apps can teach us quantum mechanics, I think an app can at least attempt to teach us relationships.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by firefoxd »

sreyaNotfilc wrote: post #224
firefoxd wrote: post #142

Close to two years ago, there was a show HN for a dating app posted here. I signed up, found a couple bugs, reported them, then deleted the app. Couple month later, I got an email saying that I got a match. Downloaded it again, had a very nice conversation, but I was not attracted. I went to the settings, selected 25 miles radius and Black only. The next match I got was not Black, and over a thousand miles. Now we ar…

I really like that idea a lot! I know, for me, when dating either I cannot think of things to say, or the date couldn't think of things to say. When you're on your computer (or phone) you have tons of time to get things moving. I have a lot of ideas now from the one you stemmed. Maybe I'll be the one who builds this. I am in the middle of another site, but this would be fun to try as well. If it every turns into some…

It's definitely something to explore and I wish you good luck!

Also, by reading the previous statement "good luck", you have agreed to give me 92% of all future profits... jk

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by Fjolsvith »

firefoxd wrote: post #142

Close to two years ago, there was a show HN for a dating app posted here. I signed up, found a couple bugs, reported them, then deleted the app. Couple month later, I got an email saying that I got a match. Downloaded it again, had a very nice conversation, but I was not attracted. I went to the settings, selected 25 miles radius and Black only. The next match I got was not Black, and over a thousand miles. Now we ar…

> Here is what the dating app I won't build will do. It will tell you how to start a conversation. Help you get dressed on a first date. Help you hold a conversation. Teach you étiquettes. Tell you what to do when you don't get an answer. These are all real relationship building tips that dating apps don't bother with.

My mother taught these skills to me.

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