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Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#93

I applaud the attempt to innovate in the dating world which tends to be solely focused on looks. But sexual attraction is an important part of relationships, so going in blind is inherently risky (from a time utilization perspective). With old school blind dates, your date is friend/family selected so some level of filtering is already done for you. I guess a good portion of dates are disappointing anyway and there a…

It doesn't just lack a filter for 'beauty', it has a negative selection bias. People who are 'ugly'[1] will likely think they have better odds relying on their personality and other intangibles.

[1]Who view themselves as such, anyway.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#94

Dating sites are female-driven, and females select primarily on looks, as has been shown on plenty-of-fish and tinder data analysis. So a dating sites without pictures would never work. I hope to be proven wrong, but I don't think so.

I think the research you are referring to is about unconscious impact of looks on decision. Lack of pictures will affect choices, but will not necessarily make participants unhappy. The later requires an entirely different approach to be studied.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#95

I applaud the attempt to innovate in the dating world which tends to be solely focused on looks. But sexual attraction is an important part of relationships, so going in blind is inherently risky (from a time utilization perspective). With old school blind dates, your date is friend/family selected so some level of filtering is already done for you. I guess a good portion of dates are disappointing anyway and there a…

There is also, unfortunately, a moral hazard associated with not having pictures. Such a site will probably tend to attract people who would not be glad to be judged by their appearance, other things being equal. For many, this would decrease the average utility.

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#97

I applaud the attempt to innovate in the dating world which tends to be solely focused on looks. But sexual attraction is an important part of relationships, so going in blind is inherently risky (from a time utilization perspective). With old school blind dates, your date is friend/family selected so some level of filtering is already done for you. I guess a good portion of dates are disappointing anyway and there a…

Why is it if a person is initially attracted to another because of their wealth they are a gold digger, but if it's because of their looks, it's perfectly acceptable?

Isn't that just as shallow?

Personally, I think being attracted to someone for any singular reason is somewhat shallow.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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What’s the incentive for attractive people? Why would you voluntarily give up a competitive advantage in a highly competitive market? If you’re ugly like me this is great.

You’re assuming that all attractive people are out to find the most attractive partner. In reality, I’ve dated people both much prettier and much uglier than me because personality is a more important factor than looks.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Maybe. But I did say that they didn't actually want a relationship, which isn't such a brag.

I read it mostly as “sex with me comes highly recommended and I have desirable sperm.” But if you were looking for a relationship, I can see how that wouldn’t have felt as...victorious? I didn’t get that context from your original comment though. Anyway, good night.

I was lonely. But also way too angry for a relationship.

So yeah, it was bittersweet.

Also, said ex wife was professionally quite awesome, so I think that sort of rubbed off on me.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

#100

Earlier quoted context omitted.

This is basically what happened when Ok Cupid tried this as an experiment for one day. Long conversations were instantly abandoned.

Can you expand? I'd like to learn more about this. Ok Cupid used to publish lots of interesting blog posts, so I'm assuming you got that from one, but I can't find it. Do you have a link?

I wonder if the old blog posts are even still up.

After they were bought by Match Group, all those experiments stopped, and the site became one with the borg. It's depressing that one shitty corporation, controls every fucking dating site, and has the money to buy pretty much any competitor at this point.

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