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Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by sandoooo » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:13 AM UTC

jacquesm wrote: post #15

sandoooo wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

But mostly the unattractive people by number. I am not saying your scenario doesn't happen, but compared to the other one it will be statistically insignificant. This also means that the attractive people will find they'll get matched up with nothing but uggos, and then they'll leave.

Sorry but this kind of language has no place on HN.

Hello tone police, I would like you to know that I am fully paid up on my Responsible Free Speech subscriptions and am entitled to at least five more politically incorrect statements this year.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by LandR » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:14 AM UTC

jacquesm wrote: post #15

sandoooo wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

But mostly the unattractive people by number. I am not saying your scenario doesn't happen, but compared to the other one it will be statistically insignificant. This also means that the attractive people will find they'll get matched up with nothing but uggos, and then they'll leave.

Sorry but this kind of language has no place on HN.

He's not wrong...

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by brailsafe » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:14 AM UTC

swsieber wrote: post #7

sandoooo wrote: post #6

You know how trying to remake reddit without the censorship will get you a cesspit of people who got censored off of reddit for pretty good reasons? This is the dating version. I predict it'll consist almost solely of extremely unattractive people.

It might also attract attractive people tired of vapid interactions. I think you'll get all sorts of people.

As an attractive person, I can say that we never get tired of vapid interactions ;)

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by ivanhoe » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:15 AM UTC

sandoooo wrote: post #6

You know how trying to remake reddit without the censorship will get you a cesspit of people who got censored off of reddit for pretty good reasons? This is the dating version. I predict it'll consist almost solely of extremely unattractive people.

As a contrast to having the site full of fake photos on other sites?

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by genidoi » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:16 AM UTC

daliwali wrote: post #14

Hahaha this will never work for an obvious reason that isn't socially acceptable to state. As soon as looks get involved, it's over.

This is not strictly true, its just exceedingly rare.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by icebraining » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:18 AM UTC

The "without pictures" concept is fine, but why did you choose to model the user profile after a CV? What do you think are the benefits over, say, OKC's approach?

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by LandR » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:19 AM UTC

undefined_user6 wrote: post #16

Is it normal to provide relationship history on dating sites nowadays? I would feel extremely uncomfortable just giving out that info.

Depends if you are male or female?

Female... nah, just a pic will do. Male... then yeah... full medical records including blood work, good pictures (probably want some cute animal in your pics too!), dating history - preferably with at a couple of good references! income statements, net worth, pictures of your house, job title, height, weight, body fat %, hobbies, shoe size, list of countries you've visited, professional accreditations.

Then you better still be at least an 8 out of 10 on the actractivness scale!

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by wwweston » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:20 AM UTC

sandoooo wrote: post #10

swsieber wrote: post #7

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It might also attract attractive people tired of vapid interactions. I think you'll get all sorts of people.

But mostly the unattractive people by number. I am not saying your scenario doesn't happen, but compared to the other one it will be statistically insignificant. This also means that the attractive people will find they'll get matched up with nothing but uggos, and then they'll leave.

“uggos” is ... pretty ugly in its own way.

There are people whose aesthetic appeal is quite broad. There are people whose aesthetic appeal is narrower. There are relatively few people who are broadly aesthetically repulsive. No one should deny that the former end of things makes a lot of activities easier, including dating... but the funny thing in talking to my acquaintances from the very attractive to narrower-appeal segment is that nobody seems to find it easy.

It’s almost as if what people are looking for isn’t as easy as negotiating aesthetics.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by adventured » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:22 AM UTC

LandR wrote: post #22

jacquesm wrote: post #15

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Sorry but this kind of language has no place on HN.

He's not wrong...

I don't much care for their term uggos either, it's rather crass. However, the op is definitely correct. By removing photos it removes a dramatic advantage that attractive people have on dating sites. It takes away one of their best matching strengths, one of the core human matching elements, and the one that is often a first-filter item. It is obvious if you do that to a group of people, they will not be inclined to your service: they gain little benefit (if any), and lose enormous advantage.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by progval » Sun, Dec 29, 2019, 2:22 AM UTC

Although I'm personally done with dating sites, I'm glad to see someone else had this idea, and actually made it.

But please consider not making all data go through Google (analytics (which can be blocked) and firestore (which is required)) and allow logins without Google or Facebook accounts. Sharing browsing data of a dating site with a third-party should be considered a privacy issue.