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I'll throw a few out as possibilities: lazy? arrogant? lack of curiosity? risk averse? what about bad people skills?
"Lazy" -- my sons assure me it's another word for "efficient". If done right, it absolutely can be an asset. "Arrogant" -- often what other people call "confidence". If you can bring it, other people will accuse you of all kinds of crap for doing so. So? "Risk averse" -- depends on a lot of things. I am very risk averse. I expect to go out on my own someday because I don't trust my future in the hands of BigCo. Seems to risky to me do so.
Traits are two-edged swords. If you are stuck with some trait and it is in your way, getting it out of your way doesn't necessarily mean changing the trait. It can mean looking for the right fit between who you are and the world around you.
"Traits" are neutral and don't predetermine outcomes. "Lazy" -- my sons assure me it's another word for "efficient". If done right, it absolutely can be an asset. "Arrogant" -- often what other people call "confidence". If you can bring it, other people will accuse you of all kinds of crap for doing so. So? "Risk averse" -- depends on a lot of things. I am very risk averse. I expect to go out on my own someday becaus…
Confident people listen to reason and input on how to do something they're already good at, better - and take new information with grace. Arrogant people believe they operate at a different level than others (See: Jason Calcanis)
Risk-averse people weigh a ton of information in order to actually make the right step FORWARD. Fear-based people avoid all risk because any movement forward causes them worry about losing what they already have, thus they don't gain anything new.
"Traits" are neutral and don't predetermine outcomes. "Lazy" -- my sons assure me it's another word for "efficient". If done right, it absolutely can be an asset. "Arrogant" -- often what other people call "confidence". If you can bring it, other people will accuse you of all kinds of crap for doing so. So? "Risk averse" -- depends on a lot of things. I am very risk averse. I expect to go out on my own someday becaus…
Efficient people get something done, then have time to spare. Lazy people don't get anything done. Confident people listen to reason and input on how to do something they're already good at, better - and take new information with grace. Arrogant people believe they operate at a different level than others (See: Jason Calcanis) Risk-averse people weigh a ton of information in order to actually make the right step FORW…
It has not been my experience that people who get labeled "lazy" really are. They usually have some issue and figuring out what the real issue is and helping them with it is generally far more effective than simply labeling, blaming, and condemning them.
I also get accused of "arrogance", a huge ego and many other things. I really don't think any of that is true either.
So I am sorry but you and I aren't likely to see eye-to-eye on this topic.
"Traits" are neutral and don't predetermine outcomes. "Lazy" -- my sons assure me it's another word for "efficient". If done right, it absolutely can be an asset. "Arrogant" -- often what other people call "confidence". If you can bring it, other people will accuse you of all kinds of crap for doing so. So? "Risk averse" -- depends on a lot of things. I am very risk averse. I expect to go out on my own someday becaus…
Efficient people get something done, then have time to spare. Lazy people don't get anything done. Confident people listen to reason and input on how to do something they're already good at, better - and take new information with grace. Arrogant people believe they operate at a different level than others (See: Jason Calcanis) Risk-averse people weigh a ton of information in order to actually make the right step FORW…
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Efficient people get something done, then have time to spare. Lazy people don't get anything done. Confident people listen to reason and input on how to do something they're already good at, better - and take new information with grace. Arrogant people believe they operate at a different level than others (See: Jason Calcanis) Risk-averse people weigh a ton of information in order to actually make the right step FORW…
I have been accused of "laziness" my whole life. Part of the reason: I have a medical condition that wasn't diagnosed until late in life. I just didn't have the energy other people around me had. Still, I graduated high school STAR student, national merit scholarship winner, state alternate for the governor's honors program...etc...while missing 18 and 19 days of school every single year and dragging myself to school…
Lots of people get called arrogant, but there is a difference between having confidence and being an asshole.
Good job with your son. Did you work from home to be able to do that for him?