I think, I need to quit Hacker News as well..
takes up too much time...
Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
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Re: Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
#62>maxed out at 5K friends
Really????? I don't even think I met that many people in my 30+ years of life! When you take anything to that extreme, it inevitably starts to lose some of its original meaning at some point.
The word "friend" in the context of Facebook creeps me out more and more. It devalues immensely what it really means to be someone's friend.
Re: Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
#63I don't know why more people don't use the "hide" feature.
I was rapidly becoming sick of Facebook. I only friended people that I'd met before, but even so it was polluted by people who I went to middle school, etc. with who I really didn't know that well even then.
Then I found the "Hide" option. I hide probably 95% of my "friends." After I did this, I LOVED using Facebook again. Every time I logged in, I was able to keep up with good friends of mine who live in other parts of the state, country, world. These are people I DO care about, often talk to in other ways, but it's a nice aggregator. If I post something, everyone that isn't directly relevant to my life can still see and comment on it, but I don't have to see their stuff.
It's perfect, it really revitalized Facebook for me and it's actually FUN to use again.
Re: Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
#64Earlier quoted context omitted.
It's very easy to hide people from your news feed without having to actively avoid them. Click the X next to their posts.
Of course, they're less likely to get angry with you if they just think you've gotten off Facebook entirely than if they think you're ignoring them while still accessible to them.
They have no way of knowing you've hidden them.
Re: Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
#65Facebook is not necessarily bad, provided that you don't hold any false beliefs about the nature of this particular beast. Like everything which has a slightly competitive or sociable element to it, it can be abused and folks can become addicted to it. Similar criticisms could be made about online games or virtual worlds, which encourage multiple trivial interactions with "friends" in a tightening web of obligations.
Personally, I'll be happier when decentralised equivalents to Facebook become more of a viable option, such as Appleseed or Diaspora. At least then you'll be able to choose not to live your online life inside of a panopticon where not so trustworthy entities are constantly peering over your shoulder.
Re: Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
#66I thought he was a developer that quit working at Facebook.
Re: Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
#67I quit LinkedIn a couple of days ago. I got a status update of some contact or other, and thought: "What is this? Why do I have this?" I feel much better not having something that felt so obligatory, yet so unlike me. These networks seem to leverage social pressure as much as they solve problems.
I quit linkedin when, while trying to send a single person an invite, it sent one to my entire gmail address book. Since I didn't recall ever giving it my address book, and it was a seemingly almost purposely bad UI design that ended up with me spamming my friends and family, I promptly quit, in the middle of a job search nonetheless. There's just something about these worlds that seems unreal, or a slight version of dishonest.
Never have joined facebook and time has made me happier with that decision every single day.
Re: Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
#68There was a twitter meme going around yesterday: "not having facebook is the new not owning a TV." I think that this phenomenon is mostly a bandwagon of Guru's who want to have something new and 'revolutionary' to present to their followers. Pavlina's always telling people to quit something. First it was regular sleep, then monogamy, etc. While he purports to be anti-consumption, this really just makes us focus on ou…
Wow, interesting. I knew about Pavlina only through his writings on polyphasic sleep. His stance on monogamy seems to be really interesting though (and weird for me)[1].
I remember him writing that one reason for quitting polyphasic sleep was that he didn't spend much time in bed with his wife.
It's interesting to note that Facebook seems to me to be a vehicle that can be easily abused to bypass monogamy.
Maybe the pieces fit in the end.
Re: Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
#69I don't know why more people don't use the "hide" feature. I was rapidly becoming sick of Facebook. I only friended people that I'd met before, but even so it was polluted by people who I went to middle school, etc. with who I really didn't know that well even then. Then I found the "Hide" option. I hide probably 95% of my "friends." After I did this, I LOVED using Facebook again. Every time I logged in, I was able t…
I agree. The day I learned to hide (apps spam etc and people) the day I started using Facebook without any issue.
Re: Steve Pavlina: 30 days since I quit Facebook
#70There was a twitter meme going around yesterday: "not having facebook is the new not owning a TV." I think that this phenomenon is mostly a bandwagon of Guru's who want to have something new and 'revolutionary' to present to their followers. Pavlina's always telling people to quit something. First it was regular sleep, then monogamy, etc. While he purports to be anti-consumption, this really just makes us focus on ou…
That is certainly a better strategy, but is it realistic? It seems to me most people do not succeed in doing so and never will. They get addicted easily and forget to pay attention to what they are doing on a meta-level.