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Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by chegra »

Ok, let me see. Back in 2005 a friend sent me one of these crush anonymously. I didn't want to guess on the site who it was, but I wanted to know who it was. They had this feature where you enter your email if you forgot your password. So, I thought to myself, not many of my friends would know about this site and whoever it is was probably the only person of my friends to be on it. So, I enter the list of female friends to recover their passwords[Just finished my undergrad, had loads of free time]. If they weren't on it the site came back with an error message. In the end, I came across one person who it was successful for.

Point being be careful with your error messages they might give away your users anonymity.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by bjonathan »

chegra wrote: post #31

Ok, let me see. Back in 2005 a friend sent me one of these crush anonymously. I didn't want to guess on the site who it was, but I wanted to know who it was. They had this feature where you enter your email if you forgot your password. So, I thought to myself, not many of my friends would know about this site and whoever it is was probably the only person of my friends to be on it. So, I enter the list of female frie…

Lol ok nice one we gonna fix that like right now :)

Thank to your twisted mind :p

Thats why I love HN you always find your way around ;)

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by johnrob »

The tone of the site is a little too business-ish. I can't pinpoint how, but (colors aside) it has the form of a business product like basecamp.

Take a good look at http://www.hotornot.com/ . I don't have the design chops to explain why, but that site comes across as less serious. If you can find more fun consumer sites that have been successful you should be able to identify some common design techniques.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by evbart »

hanskuder wrote: post #29

I hate to burst the collective bubble of shy people everywhere, but the problem of "I like him/her; there must be a way to find out if he/she likes me back!" will NOT be solved by a cool new tool or piece of technology. It will be solved by actually gaining a bit of confidence and actually asking the person in question out on a date. This site is a cool idea. I'm sure you'll get plenty of users and some legitimate mu…

I wonder what the stats are behind this, the odds of finding a crush as it scales...

Given how many people seem to use the missed connections section of Craigslist (which seems pretty hopeless), I bet these are higher odds :-)

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by kaerast »

sorbus wrote: post #25
draz wrote: post #4

An idea for you: give users the option to send flowers (or anything else, for that matter). When the email is sent to the crush, it might say: "your secret crush would like to send you flowers. please fill in your address" or something. The initiator's credit card it charged if the crush fills in the address. You make money off the flower shop affiliate referral.

That would look, to me, extremely spammy. An email from a service I've never heard of offering to send me flowers if I give it my address? Yeah.

I agree. To me the email looks spammy enough already - adding in a request for information right in the email would make it sound even worse.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by axod »

bjonathan wrote: post #18
marquis wrote: post #17

May I use this to flirt with my boyfriend?

Yeah sure! Lot of our users are sending 1 crush, and we are guessing that it's at their loved one .

Entering multiple crushes seems a crappy thing to do to me. Be interesting to see how many do that.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by Xurinos »

hanskuder wrote: post #29

I hate to burst the collective bubble of shy people everywhere, but the problem of "I like him/her; there must be a way to find out if he/she likes me back!" will NOT be solved by a cool new tool or piece of technology. It will be solved by actually gaining a bit of confidence and actually asking the person in question out on a date. This site is a cool idea. I'm sure you'll get plenty of users and some legitimate mu…

What you said is true; however, there is a huge market of people who will grasp at any opportunity that will allow them to stay within their comfort zones. Sometimes just the small chance that something could happen is sufficient.

For example, somebody forwarded me that stupid "Bill Gates will give you money if you forward this email" message, and they commented, "This probably is not real, but just in case it is, I am forwarding this. I am really strapped for cash and will take any chance." This desperation, be it for money, for companionship, or for any other strong desire, is ripe ground for snake oil. And the snake oil is that much stronger if it works -sometimes-... like hoping you win the Power Ball to solve your debt problems and seeing that there are average people like you who are winning it.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by slig »

sankara wrote: post #14

In case you didn't know, orkut had this feature for quite sometime. I'm not sure if it's still active though.

Not exactly the same feature. It would only notify both users if they mutually assigned each other as crushs.

They removed this and other features completely in the new redesign from last year.

Re: Show HN: my new project, an anti-snub dating site

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Post by ritarius »

re: 'what they receive': 'they are afraid to take the next step' doesn't feel right. of course they are afraid (that's why they're using the site) but it doesn't put them in a good light, right from the beginning. alternatives: a) make it seem like only really cool, confident people use this site b) make fun of it, 'this is a site for super shy people who are actually really cool on the inside but have social anxiety...but you should still give them a chance!'
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