There is nothing wrong with being average. You should have enough energy to swim above the event horizon, where bad things happen (i.e. financial instability and job insecurity, the root of all evil). If you don't have the motivation to be excellent, don't try. There really is no point to it, as the author pointed out. Excellent people have an inner "drive" to get there and they seek tremendous joy from walking that…
Being Average in the Age of Alpha
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#13There is nothing wrong with being average. You should have enough energy to swim above the event horizon, where bad things happen (i.e. financial instability and job insecurity, the root of all evil). If you don't have the motivation to be excellent, don't try. There really is no point to it, as the author pointed out. Excellent people have an inner "drive" to get there and they seek tremendous joy from walking that…
the problem is that people don't want the actual excellence - they want the prestige and reward for being excellent. They want the money, financial gains and status. Most people are unhappy doing what they do, but they see it as a way to achieve said status.
If you already have something you love doing, and is doing it with secure financials, you're already ahead of the game imho.
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#14There is nothing wrong with being average. You should have enough energy to swim above the event horizon, where bad things happen (i.e. financial instability and job insecurity, the root of all evil). If you don't have the motivation to be excellent, don't try. There really is no point to it, as the author pointed out. Excellent people have an inner "drive" to get there and they seek tremendous joy from walking that…
Being above financial instability and job insecurity is a good thing. It doesn't follow that the average person having a stable life means that the world is cruel and unfair.
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#15I would call it "being different" in the age of "crowds' standards". Really, what people need to realize is that everybody is different from others in at least one respect. Striving to become an "alpha" is like trying to win other peoples' game: the rules of this game are written by other people and there are already some who are far ahead of the others in this game. As a result, chances of winning in other peoples'…
Insightful comment. Similarly, competitive people prefer and create highly structured environments and situations, where it is clear what to min-max for and where they stand on the highscore list. Nuance and soft qualities go out the window that way, but others can balance that out at some cost.
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#16To me, a "man" is someone who listens, who elevates others, who fights for others, and is relentless in doing so. We need less "alpha" in this world, and more "fierce gentleman". We need not warriors, but collaborators.
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#18There is nothing wrong with being average. You should have enough energy to swim above the event horizon, where bad things happen (i.e. financial instability and job insecurity, the root of all evil). If you don't have the motivation to be excellent, don't try. There really is no point to it, as the author pointed out. Excellent people have an inner "drive" to get there and they seek tremendous joy from walking that…
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#19There is nothing wrong with being average. You should have enough energy to swim above the event horizon, where bad things happen (i.e. financial instability and job insecurity, the root of all evil). If you don't have the motivation to be excellent, don't try. There really is no point to it, as the author pointed out. Excellent people have an inner "drive" to get there and they seek tremendous joy from walking that…
There are a lot of people who are viewed as excellent and yes, it often takes tremendous drive to get where they are (sometimes luck plays a bigger role), but how excellent are they really? Your suggestion that "they seek tremendous joy from walking that path" may work for some, but certainly not for all. A lot of the high achievers that I've known are relentlessly driven to the brink of mental or physical self-destruction. They may be proud of their success, but they don't seem to be joyful people. They may feel good when comparing themselves to someone like me, but they tend to compare themselves to people who are more successful than themselves, creating a vicious cycle of demanding higher achievment for themselves, yet never being satisfied by it. They concentrate on their careers at the expense of their families, so they have a lot of familial strife. Their spouses and children are virtual strangers. Then can't connect with them emotionally because that's a beta trait. On the other hand, I've known high achievers who are very happy, loving people. Are the former types really excellent? It depends on where we place our priorities, but as a culture (in the US), we tend to view ruthless, self-obsessed near-madmen as excellent.
What's average? Inevitably, it's someone who hasn't made a lot of money or grown high on a career ladder, or who hasn't had a large presence in helping people outside of his or her immediate social circle. In this last case, how wide does the circle have to be to elevate the person from average to excellent? Can an aide who works with disabled children in a high school be considered excellent? She's just a regular person with a below average income. But she may be inspiring because she's loving and thoughtful and thought-provoking. Her presence in the lives of her student may be the single most positive thing in their lives, but that impact is within a very small social circle. But then again, her small social circle of impact can include one person who goes on to have a tremendous impact on a large number of people. Does that now make her excellent?
Contentment with our lot seems to be one of the most underrated of human achievements and it can be well within the reach of the average person and far beyond the reach of the person of excellence.
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Being above financial instability and job insecurity is a good thing. It doesn't follow that the average person having a stable life means that the world is cruel and unfair.
But nobody really wants to be average. We all deep down want to be exceptional or important or matter in some way - not average.