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Post by rebuilder »

brenden2 wrote: post #8

I've thought about making a new dating app. The existing apps suck for 2 reasons: in most markets men are at a significant disadvantage because of how men and women differ in the way they approach dating (and there's also a significantly unfair male:female ratio in many markets). Additionally, none of them are really designed to get people off the app, but rather they're built to increase engagement and keep people o…

For the payment idea, consider the incentives you're putting in place. You think you're building a dating site, but I think you'd end up with a sex chat site instead. Add video, and it's a cam site.

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Post by dark567 »

ShteiLoups wrote: post #307
thaumasiotes wrote: post #295

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In Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man ( https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143038702/ ), one aspect of male life the author explores is wooing and dating. Her initial expectation is that, with her inside understanding of female thinking, she will have an easy time courting. But she finds that in person, many women perceive and are uncomfortable with her lack of masculinity. Relationships usually fail quickly…

> "this suggests women are actually looking for the wrong things when they use online dating apps" That is quite the claim!

I suspect this also the same for men. In general people don't actually know what they want.

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Post by thewarrior »

nicc wrote: post #300
thewarrior wrote: post #217

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I don’t know about the truth of this but I can attest to a certain version of this from first hand experience. If your profile is not as desirable or just average they start hiding your profile so you don’t get as many matches. Then you pay and start getting slightly more matches. Since you’re average you’ll keep paying for a while till you get matched or maybe not. They keep a few of the desirable people visible wit…

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https://www.nytimes.com/2017/08/12/opinion/why-women-had-bet...

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Post by generalpass »

nlh wrote: post #321

Since we're all discussing our dating app ideas, here's one I've had: Why does your interaction with the app end with the messaging thread? It feels like every app decides that once you've been "connected", that's the end of their responsibility. I'd like to see an app that takes a more holistic approach: A good algorithm gets you connected, allows you to communicate but also helps set up the first (and second? or th…

I'll admit to not even looking at these services in a very long time, but OKCupid had experimented with setting up the first date more spontaneously, but it was before ubiquitous smart phones so they didn't go very far with it, IIRC.

If you had the app on, and it knew you were in proximity to some sort of match, then it could notify each party and provide a message like, "would you like an introduction to so-and-so? You're both within walking distance of an art exhibit - meet a new person and enjoy some fine art!"

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Post by newnewpdro »

jfengel wrote: post #338
newnewpdro wrote: post #220

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> horrible, confidence-destroying nightmare (presumably for both sexes). After watching over my single-mother sister's shoulder while she used her okcupid account, I highly doubt it's anywhere near as confidence-destroying for women as it is men. For her, she could login to okcupid any time she wanted an ego boost. She was constantly barraged with messages and likes, it was a completely different experience for her t…

There's a difference between good attention and bad attention. Likes are cheap; they literally cost nothing. So are message that say "hi", with no indication that they've even read your profile. Logging into a dating app and discovering thousands of people -- all of whom seem to know only that you're female and therefore approve -- is as soul-sucking as getting no attention at all. I was very popular on online dating…

> Ask your sister what fraction of those stacked-up notifications consisted solely of the word "hi".

We ended up discussing her dating experience at length at the time. Honestly it was plain ridiculous. Sure, many of the OKC messages were short "hi" or other thoughtless one-liners. But the content didn't matter, she treated them all as signals for a live one which drew her to their profiles where she would then hold a little impromptu trial of eligibility based on their photos and profiles. Most of the time she wouldn't respond, and it had nothing to do with the content of the messages. It's the photos, age, race, married/divorced status and religion that matter to her. The message notification just made her look.

What I saw was the polar opposite effect to "confidence-destroying". She became increasingly superior and picky with all the interest. And when she did go on real dates, she would find the smallest flaw as fatal because she had the impression that there were an effectively unlimited supply of competitors.

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Post by thorwasdfasdf »

wolco wrote: post #290
thorwasdfasdf wrote: post #230

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I agree that we definately need healthy competition in this space. But, there may be other reasons why it doesn't work for some people: supply and demand. Those demographics that are in high demand will find that they have a lot of dating choices, for instance (women in their 20s are in extremely high demand) whereas older women have a much harder time. You can see this reflected in the # of profiles per age group. I…

It's interesting. With the laws of supply and demand it doesn't make sense. If equal numbers of men and women are looking shouldn't there be an equal number at least by age. There are the same number of 40/50 year olds but males will target younger females. Where women will stay in there age range so they have less choices and the 20 year old female has more. So the 40 male who sticks to his age group would have more…

So, as you aluded to, it's a matter of math. if 20s,30s and 40s males are generally targetting women in 20s then men in general who are in their 20s will have a much worse time.

Some regions like san antonio or san jose simply have more males than females ~ roughly 2-9% more. That doesn't sound like a lot, but run the numbers on this. If 80% of the population is already coupled up, that leaves 20% single. Now if you have 29% males and 20% female, it means single males outnumber single females almost 3 to 2, which is quite a large margin.

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Post by neardanger »

vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

Just admit that looks are the only thing that matter on dating apps that push casual encounters. It's not hard to comprehend; sure it's a tough reality to swallow but once you realize where you are and why you aren't getting dates on these apps its almost cathartic.

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Post by HeyLaughingBoy »

freehunter wrote: post #151
akersten wrote: post #117

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If you are an innovator in a space - first to market - by definition you'll have the majority percentage of the market. Online dating is a very young industry compared to hotels. Why not give other firms the chance to compete organically with Match, instead of itching for regulation so eagerly before we've really seen the industry play out? My point is that competing hotel brands did not need the government's help to…

OkCupid was launched in 2004. They were bought by Match in 2011. Plenty Of Fish was launched in 2003. They were bought by Match in 2015. Hinge was launched in 2012. They were bought by Match in 2018. Meetic was launched in 2001. They were bought by Match in 2009. I agree, why don't we give other firms the chance to compete organically with Match? And maybe the right way to do that is to block Match from buying them.

Were any of the above firms that wanted to compete with Match, or were they just happy with being bought out?

I mean, in your scenario, if I had a successful dating app and wanted to be acquired by someone, I could end up being prevented from doing so.

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Post by mcv »

jessaustin wrote: post #183
mcv wrote: post #102

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There's sadly a big difference between capitalism in theory and in practice. Concentrating a lot of wealth and power in a single entity is going to skew the power balance. I think capitalism might be better off without corporations.

Capitalism, and also every other aspect of human life. People get riled up about peripheral issues like Citizens United , but they're uncomfortable considering the basic problem. Corporations are creations of the state. Their every quality, including their existence, is contingent upon continuous government action to protect and sustain them. Some government somewhere should try just not doing that anymore.

I suspect most countries expect to be at a disadvantage on the international stage if they ban corporations. But certainly decreasing the power of corporations and increasing their liability might be a good first step.
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