Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed • Hacker News Board

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by zulln » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:34 PM UTC

AnIdiotOnTheNet wrote: post #198

ssully wrote: post #173

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I think this is the right attitude (and correct description), but not everyone understands this. I have a friend who finally started using dating apps after I've pressured him for years. From my view, he is a decent guy who is reasonably good looking, but had no luck getting dates the "old fashioned way". He hasn't had any serious relationships success (i.e. anything greater then 6 months), but he is actually getting…

> I have a friend who finally started using dating apps after I've pressured him for years. Dear God why would you do this to someone?

If the friend expressed that he wants to date, pressure/suggest dating apps make sense.

If that is not the case I agree with you.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by [deleted] » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:35 PM UTC

adlpz wrote: post #53

tantalor wrote: post #39

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Can I buy options on sending a message in the future, and then sell those options on a derivative market?

Yeah what the world needs is an app where people can bet you'll age badly and short your "conversation tokens". Capitalism!

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Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by Invictus0 » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:36 PM UTC

dghughes wrote: post #205

I tried many dating site over the years and the one thing that stood out is if you're under 6 feet tall don't even bother creating an account.

Sorry, you're lying to yourself if you think your height is the issue.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by ctack » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:36 PM UTC

realbarack wrote: post #42

brenden2 wrote: post #8

I've thought about making a new dating app. The existing apps suck for 2 reasons: in most markets men are at a significant disadvantage because of how men and women differ in the way they approach dating (and there's also a significantly unfair male:female ratio in many markets). Additionally, none of them are really designed to get people off the app, but rather they're built to increase engagement and keep people o…

One idea I had was to basically open up analytics to the end-user. Let a user see their ELO rating + stats for different sub-groups and run A/B tests with different photos, messages, and profile text. Basically just product analytics software, except the product you're trying to sell is yourself. I'm not on the apps these days so maybe this exists already. Swipe apps more-or-less turned dating into a game—you could p…

While you're at it, you could provide power inbox tools to help recipients weed out potentially spammers/ dangerous/ flaky/ fake/ disturbed users using auto-reply chains(randomly staggered in time of course) that they could come back to later and see if the person replied sensibly to their messages. The more popular the person, the more messages they would be encouraged to create.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by jlokier » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:36 PM UTC

rkachowski wrote: post #120

erikpukinskis wrote: post #64

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Can you say more about what’s not working? I’ve been with my girlfriend three years, just bought a car together. It’s going well! We met on OKcupid. I’m a happy customer, though I don’t think I’ve ever paid them anything.

OKCupid has really been pushed to adopt the tinder based swipe approach in the past 2 years or so. They've also had a few big PR screw ups with forcing users to present their real names and really shifting the feature set to be more like Tinder now. It's really not the same as okcupid from 4 years ago

I agree.

I used the old OkCupid for years and met a few new friends through it.

It tended to match me up with people already in my "friends of friends" extended circles, with good quality common interests and attitudes, and was great for expanding those circles. I thought it was one of the best sites on the net for getting to know new people. (Way better than, say, Facebook, where you exchange comments but never really get to know new people one-on-one.)

And with people I already knew, we would have fun checking out how well OkCupid thought we matched up.

I want back a couple of years ago, after a few years break, and OkCupid had removed everything that made it useful before. I mean everything. It just wasn't any use. Sadness.

Never been back since.

It's a shame there's nothing else on the net like the old OkCupid. It was socially useful and unique.

Hopefully someone will come along and replicate the good parts in a new site someday.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by parliament32 » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:37 PM UTC

mijoharas wrote: post #107

"Access Denied" for the article from the uk. Looks like someone couldn't be bothered to deal with GDPR. :)

Good. This is honestly the best way to deal with GDPR.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by nabnob » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:37 PM UTC

zozbot234 wrote: post #87

Someone1234 wrote: post #32

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> One idea I've had is to disallow conversation in the app, and instead focus on making date plans if there's a match. You should likely run this idea past a few women. The typical reason they want to converse before meeting is security: Meeting strangers is dangerous and they want to "sniff test" to see if it is safe enough to even go that far. Your app idea largely seems to exist to solve issues men have with datin…

This is silly, you can't expect to screen out bad actors in a brief online conversation, least of all via text. You should arrange to meet at a safe, neutral place that provides its own (formal or informal) physical security.

You definitely can.

Creeps have a hard time hiding the fact that they're creeps. If I'm talking to a guy on a dating app and he immediately tries to steer the conversation towards sex, my body, how horrible women are, and shows zero interest in actually getting to know me then I know he's someone to avoid.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by hombre_fatal » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:38 PM UTC

jedberg wrote: post #72

vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

There is a reason movies don't price based on popularity. Because it sends a subtle (and not so subtle) signal of popularity. People would rather do without than do something unpopular. The people with the low prices would still not get messages, because who wants to message someone so unpopular that you're the only one interested in them?

Yeah, one of the last signals you ever want to be sending out in the dating world is how undesirable other people find you.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by asdfman123 » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:39 PM UTC

umvi wrote: post #75

chroem- wrote: post #36

Dating apps are extremely broken, and yet they're almost all owned by a single company: Match Group. I have a suspicion that these apps are left intentionally broken to keep users fruitlessly searching and boost engagement metrics. I can't find a complete list of the companies they've acquired, but last time I checked, Match owns over 20 different apps and dating sites, including Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge. We really…

Worked for me... met my wife on Tinder, been married 5 years. For me the hard part was just finding new girls outside of my immediate social circle. Tinder just helped me meet lots of new girls I would have normally never met.

I find it's best to take part in some local activity in your city. Just meet as many people as possible, and they might have a friend who fancies you.

I was on online dating for years and it was a huge waste of time, but met my fiancée through the local improv community.

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by thorwasdfasdf » Mon, Nov 25, 2019, 5:39 PM UTC

chroem- wrote: post #36

Dating apps are extremely broken, and yet they're almost all owned by a single company: Match Group. I have a suspicion that these apps are left intentionally broken to keep users fruitlessly searching and boost engagement metrics. I can't find a complete list of the companies they've acquired, but last time I checked, Match owns over 20 different apps and dating sites, including Tinder, OkCupid, and Hinge. We really…

I agree that we definately need healthy competition in this space.

But, there may be other reasons why it doesn't work for some people: supply and demand. Those demographics that are in high demand will find that they have a lot of dating choices, for instance (women in their 20s are in extremely high demand) whereas older women have a much harder time. You can see this reflected in the # of profiles per age group. In the 20-30 group there's almost 3 to 1 ratio of males to females, at least in SF, when I last did the count. On other hand male to female ratio is almost even in the 40-50. and for over 50 males will have a big advantage because there's more women than men.