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Men View Their Ex-Partners More Favorably Than Women Do: Study

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Re: Men View Their Ex-Partners More Favorably Than Women Do: Study

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What sort of men? Cisgender men? Heterosexual men? Arabic men? There's no such thing as a man -- "man" an abstract concept that needs definition before any useful statement can be made about people in that category.

If you need "men" defined for you, you're going to have trouble participating in useful communication. Use a bit of intuition.

It's absurd to group half the population into one group, and then try to work out what makes that group as a whole tick.

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> Second, there may be gender differences in the perceived causes of breakups. Women blame their male partners more often for breakups than men blame their female partners (Choo et al., 1996). In addition, women more frequently report problematic partner behaviors as the reason for a breakup, such as infidelity, substance abuse, and mental or physical abuse (Amato & Previti, 2003; Morris, Reiber, & Roman, 2015). Men, in contrast, are more likely to claim that they do not know what caused their past breakups (Amato & Previti, 2003).

This feels like the important bit to me. People view their ex’s less favorably if they blame them for the breakup; and women blame men more than men blame women. Women also reported receiving less support from their partners than men. Reading between the lines, men in average like the women more because the women put in more effort to the relationship.

Re: Men View Their Ex-Partners More Favorably Than Women Do: Study

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My bet is that men tend not to have emotional support or positive attention in their lives, unless it's from a mate, hence they value it more.

Alternative hypothesis: Or the lack of emotional support means they don't have people around them feeding their resentment, so they just move on with their lives.

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Social Psychology has one of the worst reproducibility problems in all of academia. Claims like this make is easy to see why. Simple scientific inquiry into this claim leads me to the question, “Okay, but why? That women potentially harbor worse feelings of their ex partners on average than men is one of the most interesting but useless things I’ve heard. The confounding explanations for this type of research are min…

I agree. It seems to be to be a case of 'sounds like it might be right, lets see how far we can run with it'. Ultimately, I can only see a few benefits of this line of enquiry.

E.g. "Honey, I'm sorry - but it's not really my fault, it's just my genetic make-up .."

Ultimately, while we may be descended from lizards, rationalising behaviours based on our physiological origins might not be that useful.

Especially when such sweeping statements are made about a _vast_ group of people who—when looked at in terms of their other attributes—vary enormously.

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Oh boy, research showing differences between biological genders. This is going to either be ignored or absolutely explode.

not science until it can be reproduced. and since this is a psychological study...

Not all branches of psychology are the same. Social psychology is generally pretty rigorous. For example you can calculate the average attitude and this will be consistently reproducible, assuming your methodology isn't too flawed.

Of course there was a particularly public reproduction crisis, but the problem is endemic to academia as a whole, if perhaps in lower numbers (this remains to be seen).

Re: Men View Their Ex-Partners More Favorably Than Women Do: Study

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

If you need "men" defined for you, you're going to have trouble participating in useful communication. Use a bit of intuition.

It's absurd to group half the population into one group, and then try to work out what makes that group as a whole tick.

Why?

Re: Men View Their Ex-Partners More Favorably Than Women Do: Study

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My bet is that men tend not to have emotional support or positive attention in their lives, unless it's from a mate, hence they value it more.

Also, (since we're speculating) from an evolutionary perspective it's advantageous for men to have positive view of and attraction to as many women as possible, while at the same time it's advantageous for women to be as sceptical and critical of men as possible.

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> Second, there may be gender differences in the perceived causes of breakups. Women blame their male partners more often for breakups than men blame their female partners (Choo et al., 1996). In addition, women more frequently report problematic partner behaviors as the reason for a breakup, such as infidelity, substance abuse, and mental or physical abuse (Amato & Previti, 2003; Morris, Reiber, & Roman, 2015). Men,…

Alternatively, society ascribes agency to men in a way it doesn't to women, and so men are less likely to blame external factors or expect support.
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