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Re: I just lost my wallet on the way home from work

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Are you claiming that women are in control of whether or not they get raped?

I'm claiming that a long track record of success is probably not pure luck. Occam's Razor. One factor in me not being raped while homeless was that I was usually not alone. There is safety in numbers.

The city in the US with the highest rape rate is Anchorage Alaska with 200 rapes per hundred thousand people. Without taking into account any of many relevant complications, that's a 0.2% chance to get raped annually, or a 99.8% chance of not getting raped.

Suppose a woman went 6 years in Anchorage. There's a 99.8% ^ 6 chance of her not getting raped. 98.8% chance in other words.

Would a woman who had not been raped after 6 years in Anchorage persuade you that Anchorage wasn't a more dangerous place than most?

Your comment here is hard to grasp given your previous comment. Mexico has a significantly higher crime rate than the US. As you acknowledge, being by yourself makes you more vulnerable. Being young makes you more vulnerable. A young girl hitchhiking by herself in Mexico is incredibly vulnerable. What are the odds that she will be raped or murdered over a few months of traveling? They may be 10 or 20%. They may be higher!

The fact that a girl had the most likely outcome happen doesn't prove or suggest anything. You can play Russian Roulette and you'll have a 5/6 chance of surviving. That doesn't mean it's a good idea to play. If someone plays three rounds, that doesn't make it safe.

I hope you'd agree that members of vulnerable populations should take extra precautions to mitigate their vulnerability. As per your own example, staying with other people in dangerous times and places.

Re: I just lost my wallet on the way home from work

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I'm claiming that a long track record of success is probably not pure luck. Occam's Razor. One factor in me not being raped while homeless was that I was usually not alone. There is safety in numbers.

The city in the US with the highest rape rate is Anchorage Alaska with 200 rapes per hundred thousand people. Without taking into account any of many relevant complications, that's a 0.2% chance to get raped annually, or a 99.8% chance of not getting raped. Suppose a woman went 6 years in Anchorage. There's a 99.8% ^ 6 chance of her not getting raped. 98.8% chance in other words. Would a woman who had not been raped…

Your statistical gymnastics is a case of how to lie with statistics.

Most rapes aren't cases of random strangers grabbing you randomly off the street. That's not how that works.

Most rape victims know their rapists. It's usually a social acquaintance of some sort.

Most college campus rapes or date rapes involve alcohol.

There is this narrative that we can't try to talk about what women can effectively do to protect themselves because that would be blaming the victim. But if you tell someone to lock your door to make it harder for someone to rob you, we don't have the same problem with such advice. We don't get all up in arms about how robbers just need to keep their hands to themselves and advice to protect your belongings is somehow victim blaming.

Re: I just lost my wallet on the way home from work

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I am 56 years old. I have never found a wallet or a debit card except one I found a card in a restaurant where I just hand it to a server.

Ive both once lost and found a debit card in an ATM. The one I found was left in a drive thru on a Saturday morning. The branch was open, so I walked in and dropped it off. I have no idea what the bank did after that. I once left mine at an ATM, the bank cancelled the card and issued a new one before I even realized I'd left it behind.

But how? Doesn't the ATM eat it up if you don't take it in 30s or so?

Re: I just lost my wallet on the way home from work

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I frequently walked home from work in Oakland at 1am when I worked a night shift. I always wore headphones too and people would tell me I was being stupid. After about a year and a half of this I was coming up a hill to a four way intersection when someone popped out from behind a fence just before I passed it, grabbed my shirt and stuck a gun in my stomach. He ended up being not the worst and let me keep my keys and…

> the consequences for her would probably have been much worse. Are you assuming that the mugger you encountered would have raped her? (To be clear, I don't think that's a prima facie invalid assumption. It's a sincere object-level question.)

No, they are assuming it could have been worse.

That includes the possibility of having a gun pulled on them like OP which only happened once.

Re: I just lost my wallet on the way home from work

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You're making it worse. Anyone can conveniently lose a wallet, but one with a bank card with no identifying info in it anywhere? A finder who went to bizarre lengths to make Faster transactions to your bank account to send you a message? Absolutely no other identifying information in the wallet? A plan to ride a jump bike around to prove you looked for it with receipts? Before sending someone pennies with context in…

Unless something changed pretty much all payments in the UK are “Faster”.

Salary payments are typically still BACS and I think Faster does have a transaction limit in the 10’s of thousands of pounds range.

Re: I just lost my wallet on the way home from work

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I turned in more than one lost wallet or debit card to a librarian (or similar) while homeless. I didn't want to call them myself or whatever because I was homeless and I knew I was automatically suspect as a thief because of it. So I wanted someone the world would trust/believe to deal with it. Well before I was homeless, attempts to return wallets or found ID cards or whatever were consistently met with suspicion.…

I am 56 years old. I have never found a wallet or a debit card except one I found a card in a restaurant where I just hand it to a server.

Presumably a homeless person spends more time than you do in the places where people lose things than a non homeless person.

Re: I just lost my wallet on the way home from work

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Ive both once lost and found a debit card in an ATM. The one I found was left in a drive thru on a Saturday morning. The branch was open, so I walked in and dropped it off. I have no idea what the bank did after that. I once left mine at an ATM, the bank cancelled the card and issued a new one before I even realized I'd left it behind.

But how? Doesn't the ATM eat it up if you don't take it in 30s or so?

Some do (that happened to mine when I forgot it once, bank called me). Others do not. The best ones require that you take your card before they do the thing you wanted it to do (as a measure to ensure you don't forget your card).

Re: I just lost my wallet on the way home from work

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Are you sure you didn't lose your wallet 1 time in Brazil and 7 times in Germany?

good one!(americans will not get it)

Au contraire mon frere, I always mention BRA71L when I’m up 7-1 in Rocket League

Re: I just lost my wallet on the way home from work

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I am 56 years old. I have never found a wallet or a debit card except one I found a card in a restaurant where I just hand it to a server.

Presumably a homeless person spends more time than you do in the places where people lose things than a non homeless person.

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