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We Are All Confident Idiots (2014)

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We are all confident idiots and this is why the ego was created in evolution.

Ego is needed to make you think you are better than others at something, eventhough initially you may not be. Without ego, people would be Marvin The Paranoid Android but depressed because we didn't have the capabilities or opportunities to compete with all the smarter people around or in history. People that are laser focused and don't listen to any naysayers, those people can become successful more than people that don't even attempt to due to humbling competition.

The reason why childhood is so nice is that you can dream and imagine on becoming anything. Reality bites that in the behind, but the ones that can overcome and pursue, prevail over the ones that do not go beyond their limit. The trick is to be rooted in the real adult world, but break the rules and don't listen to others when you have a desire to push in an area with a beginners or child mind. Just do it says your ego.

The internet is a humbling experience for the ego. Competition was only your local tribe before the internet, now it is worldwide. This is both humbling and also allows humans an insight that has never before been able to be realized, you can see how you need to compete with the entire world. It is inspiring all the time and seemingly insurmountable at times, but jump start that ego and you to can be competing. Everyone can be good at something, time and focus, as well as competition can push you.

Without ego humanity may not have made it this far.

When you convince yourself you can do it, by making iterative gains to fuel more motivation, it must turn to discipline and professionalism, and that means blocks of time all the time on your focused goal or project in both the open (creative / brainstorming / ideas / play) and closed (prototypes / ship time) mode. The overnight successes are always in a multi-year focused strategy.

Check out the market, but don't be too focused on chasing what others are doing, focus on your area that meets your goals. Use that ego motivation and stay away from getting too beat down because others are far ahead.

"Read and write four to six hours a day. If you cannot find the time for that, you can't expect to become a good writer" -- Stephen King

"Amateurs sit and wait for inspiration, the rest of us just get up and got to work" -- Stephen King

"The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing." -- Walt Disney

Re: We Are All Confident Idiots (2014)

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Interestingly those who tend to be more realistic in their self expectations are more prone to depression. False confidence may be the route to happiness or at least optimism.

Would you rather be a happy idiot or a miserable know-it-all?

Perhaps the know-it-all is miserable because they’re acutely aware that they’re outnumbered by happy idiots?

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How do you work with an individual who _insists_ they understand how it all works? Even when faced with hard evidence that contradicts their assessments, I'm still told I don't understand or I misinterpreted their words - basically gas-lighting me. Arguing leaves me unmotivated and frustrated. Giving in is the wrong path. Going to others doesn't seem to move the needle. Help.

I don't think you will ever convince someone they're wrong. I'm reminded of the beginning of "How to Win Friends and Influnce People" by Dale Carnegie. It spoke of a man who murdered a policeman when he asked to see his driver's license. He went through a trial and ended up in the electric chair. I think the point was the guy didn't say "This is what I get for killing someone" instead he said "This is what I get for…

So our attitude to others should be more like Wally and less like Dilbert and Alice? I like it! And I may add, “Mission Accomplished”, though it took me over 30 years.

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

There's a parable... If you meet an a__hole in the morning, you met an a__hole. If you meet a__holes throughout the day, you are the a__hole. Moral of the story, if it's just one person, let them be. You don't have to win.

This is such a dreadful idea to spread. Many of humanity's most valuable individuals have died alone, become pariahs or were persecuted by their peer groups. This obviously also happens to entire groups of people, not just individuals. This happens all the time, even in ordinary places where it is clearly wrong. I can even remember back in primary school a couple instances of even teachers bullying unfortunate studen…

Maybe you misunderstood the saying? An a-hole is the bully, not the victim. The valuable people you talk about are the victims of a-holes.

Re: We Are All Confident Idiots (2014)

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Hey, I built a 40 year career on 'fake it until you have to leave or learn how to make it' -So don't knock this. And, all you young whippersnappers remember that its only old fools like me messing up in the code which gives you meaningful jobs fixing bugs in the future.

Wayne, is that you?

I hated you at first for modifying the core libraries to break standard fuctionality, writing 500-line SQL statements full of string concatenations and using mutable globals all over the place, but now I see your point. Thanks, I have been earning an above average salary fixing your bugs and I will have a job for life. Still, fuck you man.

Re: We Are All Confident Idiots (2014)

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I may have been faking it and making it till I caught on.

I was faced with a trade-off I don’t know how to make.

Do I prioritize urgent work or important work when not doing either has tragic consequences along similar timelines?

Oh! We invented two words that mean the same thing so we can fake our own inability to prioritize?

sigh

Re: We Are All Confident Idiots (2014)

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Hey, I built a 40 year career on 'fake it until you have to leave or learn how to make it' -So don't knock this. And, all you young whippersnappers remember that its only old fools like me messing up in the code which gives you meaningful jobs fixing bugs in the future.

Wayne, is that you? I hated you at first for modifying the core libraries to break standard fuctionality, writing 500-line SQL statements full of string concatenations and using mutable globals all over the place, but now I see your point. Thanks, I have been earning an above average salary fixing your bugs and I will have a job for life. Still, fuck you man.

No, its not Wayne but he's my spirit brother. I can see us both in the forest, banging the drum of expediency while the world flails us with stinging nettles.

"they also serve, who only stand and stuff up the codebase"

Also, FORTRAN globals and variables called i,j and k ROCK!

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Hey, I built a 40 year career on 'fake it until you have to leave or learn how to make it' -So don't knock this. And, all you young whippersnappers remember that its only old fools like me messing up in the code which gives you meaningful jobs fixing bugs in the future.

I have grown in confidence over 20 years not by building capabilities but realizing that everyone else is guessing just as much as I am. And I'm at least an above-average guesser in my field of "expertise".

Knowing how to ask intelligent questions is the hallmark of a successful bluffer. Out your comrades lack of knowledge by exposing your own as a very clever question

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Interestingly those who tend to be more realistic in their self expectations are more prone to depression. False confidence may be the route to happiness or at least optimism.

Would you rather be a happy idiot or a miserable know-it-all?

> It is better to weep with wise men than to laugh with fools.

-- Spanish Proverb

I agree, especially since the fools are the major source of things to weep about.

Re: We Are All Confident Idiots (2014)

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Hey, I built a 40 year career on 'fake it until you have to leave or learn how to make it' -So don't knock this. And, all you young whippersnappers remember that its only old fools like me messing up in the code which gives you meaningful jobs fixing bugs in the future.

>Hey, I built a 40 year career on 'fake it until you have to leave or learn how to make it' -So don't knock this

This comments illustrates the article, which has nothing to do with "fake it till you make it", and is all about how people often think they know something, when, in fact, they have little knowledge on the subject (in this case, the subject being the article in question).

To clarify: "fake it till you make it" is pretending you know something when you know you don't, the exact opposite of what the article is about (not knowing that you really don't know something, and being confident that you do).

Not to knock the OP (hey, we all go straight into the comments from time to time) :)

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