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America’s New Sex Bureaucracy

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Re: America’s New Sex Bureaucracy

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>But after a lifetime in service of the feminist cause, she took on the case of a friend whose son she came to believe had been wrongly convicted of rape and won his acquittal on appeal. This is one of the big ways in which sexism is a much more tractable problem than racism and less potentially explosive. Women and men both have members of the opposite sex that they genuinely love. I have heard that fathers with dau…

True in the sense that it creates a "floor" for the depths to which people might sink. But this process can still sink pretty low. Consider how women couldn't vote in the US until 1919 -- a half century after blacks. And a more modern example that was on display for all to see: the confirmation hearings of Brett Kavanaugh. There were not a lot of facts available -- no date, no place, no witness that could remember. Y…

My understanding is that women didn't want to vote due to, amongst other things, not wanting to "mix the spheres" of domestic and public life, wanting the government to have no say in domestic life: https://herandrews.com/2015/03/01/women-against-suffrage/

Not voting doesn't have a huge effect on people's lives, which is why millions don't do so.

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The problem is that it is reasonable to expel people (and, indeed, to want to expel people) with a much much lower burden of proof than would be required to lock them in a cage. There absolutely should be a different standard for “can continue to be in this school” and “can continue to walk down the public sidewalk”, and also decided by different people.

I can see expelling people for things that are not crimes, such as cheating on tests, or breaking any number of arbitrary rules But having a lower standard of proof means expelling people who haven't actually done what you're expelling them for. That's a whole other thing, and I'm very hesitant about it. Of course, when the expulsions almost only happen to members of one gender, on the say-so of members of the other…

There's a great paper on this, Rape Culture and Epistemology[0] which, although provocatively titled, addresses why a lower standard of proof may be appropriate.

>We’ll argue that this sort of deference is mistaken, for at least two kinds of reasons. One is that, as anti-rape activists have often emphasized, law enforcement procedures themselves are deeply flawed when it comes to their practice of dealing with sexual assault. Another has to do with the connections between knowledge and action, and between knowledge and knowledge ascriptions. We also think that these disparate considerations are more closely interconnected than it may at first appear.

[0] https://philarchive.org/archive/CRERCA-2

Re: America’s New Sex Bureaucracy

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True in the sense that it creates a "floor" for the depths to which people might sink. But this process can still sink pretty low. Consider how women couldn't vote in the US until 1919 -- a half century after blacks. And a more modern example that was on display for all to see: the confirmation hearings of Brett Kavanaugh. There were not a lot of facts available -- no date, no place, no witness that could remember. Y…

> Consider how women couldn't vote in the US until 1919 -- a half century after blacks. Not letting women vote is arguably not necessarily a marker of sexism. It is more a marker of the relationship between a country's military leadership and institutions. Originally originally (~400BC) voting was basically for the army to decide when and where it would fight; hence male-only because men are the physically big ones w…

1 - I'm doubtful of your claim there was nothing to vote on except where/whether the army fights.

2 - That's irrelevant anyway unless you're suggesting that it was still the case up to 1919.

3 - Even if it was, why does women not fighting imply they can't have opinions and thoughts on when and where the army fights? For sure it still affects them.

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That's very insightful. And yet those men are still sexist, but in a protective way.

I recovered from being sexually abused as a child in part because I actively sought out protective male friends. I've long believed the antidote to "bad men" is "good men." In contrast, a lot of rape victims simply conclude all men are evil and it becomes a barrier to recovery. I think they don't know another way to feel safe. It seems like the safe bet to them: just don't trust any men. That wasn't my reaction.

A family friend raped one of my nieces. She was 15 at the time, and got pregnant. This was a religious community, and the rapist was married. But another family friend, who was single, married the young woman, and they had a long and apparently happy marriage, with two more children. So I guess that it all sort of worked out. They did forgive the rapist father, and he contributed to my niece's family.

Re: America’s New Sex Bureaucracy

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post #159

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>Most families include the elderly and the overweight, so the idea that familiarity breeds acceptance would predict that those biases should be going away quicker than biases against gays. What I'm about to say is not meant to provide a justification for discriminatory behavior, it's just an armchair-anthropologist's attempt at explaining this discrepancy. We might have a very deep bias against old people; if a group…

The bias against overweight people is probably less about them hoarding and more about them being unhealthy. We probably have a bias against unhealthy people because they'd drain the time and resources of a tribe. And they'd be less likely to help with physical activities like hunting, gathering and war. Obesity is a very new phenomenon but not wanting to include or associate with people who seem sick or unhealthy is…

Bias against overweight people isn't about them being unhealthy, plenty of other unhealthy people have public sympathies, the problem is they are mostly "voluntarily" unhealthy - they want accommodations for conditions caused by their unhealthy habit. It's similar to drug addicts' plight in both the cause and reaction.

Re: America’s New Sex Bureaucracy

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>But after a lifetime in service of the feminist cause, she took on the case of a friend whose son she came to believe had been wrongly convicted of rape and won his acquittal on appeal. This is one of the big ways in which sexism is a much more tractable problem than racism and less potentially explosive. Women and men both have members of the opposite sex that they genuinely love. I have heard that fathers with dau…

"No one will ever win the battle of the sexes; there's too much fraternizing with the enemy." --- Henry Kissinger

(Not actually by Henry Kissinger)

Re: America’s New Sex Bureaucracy

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post #63

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I understand “why,” in that they are required to. What I don’t understand is why this is a thing to begin with. Government end-runs around standard systems of due process is odd.

From the article: "This ideology is a successor to liberalism. It brandishes terms that superficially resemble normative liberalism—terms like diversity and inclusion—but in fact seeks to supplant it. This new regime, in which administrative power has been fashioned into a blunt instrument of deterrence, marks off a crucial distinction—between the liberal rule of law, and the punitive system of surveillance rooted in…

That is essentially the subject of this article: https://www.bloomberg.com/opinion/articles/2019-09-09/free-s...

... but I felt that coverage was a bit thin and-- lacking a better phrase-- subjective. Perhaps the continuation of this series will be more substantive, it seems off to a good start.

Re: America’s New Sex Bureaucracy

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I recovered from being sexually abused as a child in part because I actively sought out protective male friends. I've long believed the antidote to "bad men" is "good men." In contrast, a lot of rape victims simply conclude all men are evil and it becomes a barrier to recovery. I think they don't know another way to feel safe. It seems like the safe bet to them: just don't trust any men. That wasn't my reaction.

A family friend raped one of my nieces. She was 15 at the time, and got pregnant. This was a religious community, and the rapist was married. But another family friend, who was single, married the young woman, and they had a long and apparently happy marriage, with two more children. So I guess that it all sort of worked out. They did forgive the rapist father, and he contributed to my niece's family.

It took me twenty years to conclude that the individual who raped me honestly thought there was consent on my part. And then I was able to make my peace with it and move on.

I think we desperately need to work on the societal problems that foster situations like that. Far too often, there is a crucible of social baggage involved.

My takeaway: Have private relationships and don't let the world butt into them. It's hard enough for two people to agree what's okay. It gets vastly harder when other parties get involved.

I read one article where two college students hooked up, everything was initially fine, then the girl's mother basically talked her into charging the guy with rape.

If you weren't there, I don't want your opinion of what happened to me. You can apply your personal baggage to your own sex life/experiences. Keep it out of mine.

Re: America’s New Sex Bureaucracy

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post #59

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How would bias toward gay people fit in with that? A lot of people don't know (or at least aren't aware that they know) anyone gay, but bias toward gay people has dramatically fallen over the last couple of decades. There was a recent episode of "Hidden Brain" on NPR that talked about this [1]. This part is particularly interesting: > In a thought experiment, Mahzarin and her colleagues have extended the trend lines…

"it's about 60 more years for anti-black biases to be eliminated, 140 years for skin tone biases against darker skin to go away" Why the distinction? Will black people still be facing skin tone biases in 61 years? What even is a skin tone bias? I'm pretty sure this isn't a bias against people who come back from holiday with a tan, which suggests it's not about skin tone, so racism?

Skin tone bias is independent of race, because it often manifests inside the race boundaries.

Among Indians https://theconversation.com/bleached-girls-india-and-its-lov...

Among African-Americans https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1988-35485-001

Among East Asians https://nextshark.com/east-asian-pale-skin-beauty-standard/

Difference Between Racism and Colorism: https://time.com/4512430/colorism-in-america/

Re: America’s New Sex Bureaucracy

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post #60

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If I run a startup, and one of my employees is making other employees uncomfortable, and he keeps getting accused of harassing other employees, and is generally just making some of my best engineers unhappy, hurting productivity, and ruining our carefully constructed culture... ...I can fire him. I mean, obviously I need to go through the proper HR procedures, follow local employment law, respect the terms of his con…

Most Universities are non-profit, and almost all of them take Federal money. Classifying them as a business isn't accurate.

More importantly, people get paid to work for a business but pay to attend a university.
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