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It's sucks being tired all the time, regardless of how well I do at making other people money.
I miss waking up rested.
Sorry, had to vent.
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I believe you tried meditation but I don’t buy the “it doesn’t work for me” That’s like saying exercise doesn’t work for you. Maybe you are going too hard too fast and getting injured or any number of things that make it difficult. But meditation works, even if it’s (like exercise) a difficult habit to pick up.
Meditation is different because it requires sitting still and doing nothing for a period of time. I have probably gone months without doing this to any degree. I don't sleep without listening to something. I can rarely sit down and just watch TV. Etc. I am fairly sure the issue isn't medical: I can code, drive, and read for hours at a time without losing focus. But meditation is still torture (as is having to sit dow…
I'm fine, though struggling a bit. I'm taking a long break to scratch project itches but other life priorities have made progress slower than I was expecting. But, I love those other priorities so it's stuck between clouds and a soft place!
I understand I was very lucky to be able to take this break. There are a lot of comments in this thread I could identify with. Fingers crossed this becomes a regular Ask HN!
I am 'OK' in the sense that I like all of my colleagues and really do enjoy my work as a technical product manager. What's not 'OK' is that a snake-oil salesman/professional bullshitter who calls himself an 'Agile Consultant' has embedded himself in the organization. He's an all-talk arrogant blowhard with a savior complex centered around rescuing us from 'Waterfall'. What's not 'OK' in my personal life: I've been ha…
Dating in SF is indeed brutal. I am a gay woman here and have the same challenge. Actually the hardest part is other peoples' flakiness and unwillingness to commit to things. And I'm not even talking long term relationship-level commitment, just, will we see each other again next week?-level commitment. Anyway - keep working on yourself and what you have control over. With love, it all sucks and hurts until it doesn'…
If I can get a girlfriend, I'd be ok. People say you gotta be complete yourself and not look for another person to be alright, but that's kinda bullshit, I think. I live in SF and dating is so app based here. I don't do well in these apps. Apart from that, I think I'm ok. Don't really like working fulltime but I've gotta a FI/RE plan to leave in a few years.
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Please watch out about red-pill forums. Standing up for yourself is good, being able to communicate and be assertive is good, but the underlying ideas of the red-pill community is to build relationships on games and dishonesty, with a nice base of sexism.
MRP is pretty different in that regard. Its more about recognizing the ways society tells men to behave that don't actually help them or anyone else.