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Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by taneq » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 4:26 AM UTC

eof wrote: post #798

taneq wrote: post #783

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No. Meditation does not "work for everyone" no matter how hard you no-true-scotsman it and I'm sick and tired of reading this. Source: Dad was massively into all that woo, spent my whole teens trying, even spent a week at an ashram in India. No, meditation is not for everyone.

30 minutes of cardio everyday isn’t for everyone. But anyone who does it will have adaptations as a result.

All 30 minutes of attempted meditation per day does for me is dramatically increases my desire to punch someone. If that counts as an adaptation then sure.

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by GeorgeTirebiter » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 4:28 AM UTC

anon9001 wrote: post #360

I'm shocked at how many people seem to be doing OK or have minor complaints. For me, I've realized that if I have to do anything for 40+ hours a week on a schedule, after a couple of weeks, I'd prefer being dead. I could be a professional ice cream taste tester or race car driver, and after about 3 weeks of showing up at a fixed time and putting in 8 hours, I'd still be ready to off myself again. When I have week-lon…

If you can, consider consulting. You have much more control of when you work, with whom, and on what. Not perfect, but for sure better. Please give it a go if you can.

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by gremlinsinc » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 4:52 AM UTC

Not the best... I just got some gigs paying $20-25/hr. A drop from my average of $50 and my recent high of $80.

I know I'm a mid to senior level full stack developer but imposter syndrome keeps coming back. I hate interviewing and remote jobs are hard to find.

I'm also feeling a lot of burn out but I think that stems from quality and lack of a strong client pipeline.

My stack is Laravel/Vue but I find myself bored with that wanting to work more on node or go with hasura as a graphql api, or work on rust or clojure so I can learn to think and code in a different way. Or possibly move to pentesting or devops.

I think just joining an exciting startup could be enough to end some of the despair. I really miss working on a team. Freelancing is getting super old.

If you need a top notch developer hit me up.. Vue, react, Angular, Laravel, Adonis, Bulma, Bootstrap, Express, Postgres, Mongodb, GraphQL, Rest, Ruby, PHP, Python, Ionic. Framework, Cordova, Quasar Framework.

I'd also be willing to do project or product management.

Email: patrickwcurl@gmail.com Resume: https://patrickcurl.com/resume

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by PorterDuff » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 5:12 AM UTC

Pfhreak wrote: post #416

PorterDuff wrote: post #176

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I'm afraid I wouldn't believe you. With rare exceptions, management wants to hear 'no problem' and that 'everything is fine'. The next thing to do is a PowerPoint chart for the 2nd level managers showing names and stress levels over time with trends.

> With rare exceptions, management wants to hear 'no problem' and that 'everything is fine'. This makes me so sad. As a manager (formerly an engineer), I want to hear about problems as soon as possible! I can help! It's my job to clear roadblocks, to help find interesting projects, to keep the team working well together for the long term. It doesn't do me, the engineer, the project, or the team any good to hide probl…

I should be more clear. When I say 'management', I'm really referring to 2nd level managers and up. From my experience, line managers are either the member of the technical staff who tells the lords and masters that everything is fine (and are mostly fighting fires or pushing a chunk of hardware through a pipeline) or they have three ring binders full of yearly company-supplied HR stuff. In neither case is there enough power to really 'run' things. Heaven help you if there's a completely separate creature known as the 'project manager'.

OTOH, directors/VPs (and other intermediate levels in larger firms) are not only the people that senior technical staff will run to for various reasons, but also are the folks who love to hear 'no problem' and that 'everything is fine'. Bringing them things to worry about is best done cautiously. In the final analysis, the worker bees are ERUs.

YMMV (very much so) of course. I can speak only for about a dozen companies. The world is a big place.

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by omar_a1 » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 5:16 AM UTC

I've been unemployed for four months now. And, ironically, have been overworked preparing for the slew of technical interviews I've had these past two weeks (four just this week). If you had asked me this question a few weeks ago, when I had zero job prospects, I would have said no, but being busy again is giving me a newfound sense of purpose. Let's hope at least one of these interviews pans out! Fingers crossed!

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by dwaltrip » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 5:17 AM UTC

omar_a1 wrote: post #805

I've been unemployed for four months now. And, ironically, have been overworked preparing for the slew of technical interviews I've had these past two weeks (four just this week). If you had asked me this question a few weeks ago, when I had zero job prospects, I would have said no, but being busy again is giving me a newfound sense of purpose. Let's hope at least one of these interviews pans out! Fingers crossed!

Good luck :) I'm sure the preparation has helped!

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by shandor » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 5:19 AM UTC

batty_alex wrote: post #478

shandor wrote: post #246

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Nowadays there's no lack of enthusiasts even in the smallest of niches. Just follow your passion and do what you enjoy, the others will be there. Much easier than trying to enjoy things you don't like, and building your social circles around that. Of course even then you need to be active at least to the point of finding the others out there, but I'd still contest it to be the easier way.

This is true, but it's also nice to have that support circle be folks you can interact with face-to-face. It's so much better. Not that online communities aren't also great. For some reason, not having someone else look you in the eyes with a similar amount of excitement just isn't the same.

Oh, I was also speaking of "live" socializing instead of online, and agree completely with you. I was just voicing my encouraging experience that even small-to-mid sized cities seem to have a surprising amount of enthusiasts for almost any given interest.

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by prawn » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 5:34 AM UTC

DoreenMichele wrote: post #780

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I only asked in case that helps you remove the health/gender bit from your service brand, if those are things you feel limit your ability to make connections. Do you compartmentalise the aspects of your brand to ensure a clear pitch? e.g., the CV stuff is very separate from the San Diego blog or the health discoveries you've made over the years?

Thank you. I'm in a tiny town. I don't see this being a big market for resume work. (Locally, I do website work very part-time.) I had a former CEO on hiatus hire me while I was still homeless -- just before I got off the street, in fact. He was satisfied enough that his wife hired me a few months later, even though I had raised my prices. I've had a few people with a lot of tech experience. So I imagine a lot of peo…

I wonder if you could try a standalone website/brand purely for the resume service to isolate the spiel? polishedresumes.com or something. Make that the tip of your spear. You can be known for other things, but if someone wants to recommend your resume service to their peers, they have a URL that is to the point.

That said, Homeless Resumes is a bit barefoot investor or whatever that brand is.

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by elmersglue » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 5:44 AM UTC

I don’t know who I am and what I want. I’m in my 30s and engaged because my SO couldn’t accept the status quo. I recently dropped out of my PhD after 3 years or floundering to take a job. I worry every day about the decisions I’ve made and I’m afraid of regret. I feel like a mess. I can’t articulate my thoughts but I know I have an aptitude for programming and math, though I constantly second guess my solutions and revise them all the time leading others to doubt me. I don’t believe in anything or anyone. I can shoot ideas down like nobodies business but have no vision myself. Sometimes I wonder if how I view myself matches up at all with how others view me. I fantasize about my own death. I can’t commit. Feeling sorry for myself I guess, but feels good to write it out

Re: Ask HN: Are you ok?

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Post by omar_a1 » Fri, Sep 13, 2019, 5:56 AM UTC

dwaltrip wrote: post #806

omar_a1 wrote: post #805

I've been unemployed for four months now. And, ironically, have been overworked preparing for the slew of technical interviews I've had these past two weeks (four just this week). If you had asked me this question a few weeks ago, when I had zero job prospects, I would have said no, but being busy again is giving me a newfound sense of purpose. Let's hope at least one of these interviews pans out! Fingers crossed!

Good luck :) I'm sure the preparation has helped!

Hey, thanks! =D