Teen's tweets from her smart fridge go viral after mother confiscates phone • Hacker News Board

Re: Teen's tweets from her smart fridge go viral after mother confiscates phone

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Post by brokenmachine » Fri, Aug 16, 2019, 5:06 AM UTC

tfandango wrote: post #50

slics wrote: post #41

As a parent of Few Young kids (non teenagers) I have made it my mission to not give in to the social media BS. My kids will only get phones when they go to college. If they get a phone before then, it will be a dumb phone with no internet. Looked here and looks promising: https://tello.com For the others that say, we all get distracted, well then you might have no clue what distracted means to someone with a kid. You…

They will create accounts on their friends phones, all of the apps have multi-user features now. I know what you are saying, but I eventually gave in and made some rules around everything, like unexpectedly asking for the phone to take a look at things, putting it in my room at night, etc. They (at least my kid) aren't diligent enough to cover up enough that you won't find out if anything is going on. Of course she t…

> Of course she then dropped it in the toilet.

Lol, clearly now there needs to be a rule of no phones taken in the bathroom.

Re: Teen's tweets from her smart fridge go viral after mother confiscates phone

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Post by brokenmachine » Fri, Aug 16, 2019, 5:15 AM UTC

pizza234 wrote: post #35

serpix wrote: post #7

She caused a fire because she got distracted with Social Media. As a parent I would also confiscate electronics and probably consider therapy at that point.

I don't think confiscation would be fruitful. Based on the (inevitably) scarce information, my guess is that the parents neglected the subject during the childhood, she grew up used to "passive entertainment", and she developed an addictive personality. If this is the case (see the part where she mentions she's easily bored), removing some means would just transfer the addiction to other ones, potentially (but not ne…

Therapy, the universal panacea.

What about just talking to each other, like a normal family? I'm happy my parents didn't insist on therapy anytime anything happened.

Re: Teen's tweets from her smart fridge go viral after mother confiscates phone

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Post by pizza234 » Fri, Aug 16, 2019, 7:28 AM UTC

brokenmachine wrote: post #62

pizza234 wrote: post #35

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I don't think confiscation would be fruitful. Based on the (inevitably) scarce information, my guess is that the parents neglected the subject during the childhood, she grew up used to "passive entertainment", and she developed an addictive personality. If this is the case (see the part where she mentions she's easily bored), removing some means would just transfer the addiction to other ones, potentially (but not ne…

Therapy, the universal panacea. What about just talking to each other, like a normal family? I'm happy my parents didn't insist on therapy anytime anything happened.

This is a flawed argument.

Nobody wrote that therapy is a universal panacea (I wrote "approach", which is an entirely different concept).

Also, you clearly don't know how therapy works. It's not something can "do" "anytime anything happens", like going to the car mechanic, in particular, because therapy takes a (at least relatively) long time to have effects.

The idea to go to therapy in cases like this is actually based on the opposite of what you wrote:

1. that the event is exceptional (it's not "anything")

2. that there is a pathological context (addiction)

3. more subtly, that there is at the very least a communication issue in the family