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For what it's worth, I don't think this is generally a Bay Area norm. Most of the teams I've worked on have been pretty patient, respectful communicators. But it is definitely a norm in some places.
Sometimes it's unfortunately just a personality thing. There are people that are notorious for just needing to be the smartest person in the room, and if they aren't checked, it's just going to be a sucky place to work. I've had limited good luck dealing with them by asking a lot of questions, Socrates-style. Really pinning them down. Particularly if I have an opposing solution that answers my own questions better. T…
I don’t think this is a reasonable style to deal with and for my part I’m trying to make my thoughts more concise before sharing them. Just don’t take it personally?
Try a "hacky sack." Only the person who has it may speak. If interruptions continue, introduce an airhorn, and hit it when they happen. ;) There should also probably be a time limit as well.
An airhorn should only be used outdoors. These can output 120 decibels, enough to cause pain and temporary hearing impairment.
Sometimes I'll raise my hand every time I get cut off. You have to read the room though.
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" Always finish what you have to say even if others start trying to talk over you. If you stop it makes it look like what you have to say is not important. " And after the two of you have talked over each other for a few seconds, they'll stop and say something like, "I'm sorry, what were you saying?" You may think it's an invitation to explain what you were trying to say. It isn't. And if you're like me, at this poin…
I used to try this with my manager when he would interrupt me. Sometimes we would go on talking over each other for a full 10 ish seconds. That's a really really long time for two people to talk over each other and not stop. So uncomfortable, but I found it so rude for him to talk over me and he did it so frequently that in the end I just refused to stop talking. I'm naturally shy and soft spoken, so it's not that I…
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this is a VERY hard thing to learn, but I am trying it. Sometimes it just requires more concentration and determination than I can muster. Also the person doing the interrupting will occasionally accuse YOU of interrupting them. I hate feeling bullied by interrupters so I am constantly working to master any and all tactics for shutting down what I see as this rude/disrespectful/disruptive behavior.
Why? This is passive aggressive. Am I taking crazy pills? What's the problem with just politely saying, "Can you please not interrupt?" or "Let me finish my point please."
For in-person meetings, I am constantly watching for people who raise their hands or try to get a word in. If necessary, I cut the people monopolizing the conversation and make sure those people get a chance to speak. For the wallflowers at the meeting I make sure to reserve some time at the end when people who haven't spoken get a chance to speak up.
For online meetings (Skype), the manager has to watch time and interrupt people where necessary. It is very easy someone to go on a monologue during Skype meetings. Again, listening for people trying to get a word in is the managers responsibility.
Every now and then, a team gets an employee who is disruptive, constantly interrupting the flow and going off on tangents. For those employees, the manager has to bring the non-productive behavior to their attentive offline and suggest changes. In extreme cases, where the behavior persists and is ruining the team environment, that person has to leave the company.
In short, your manager is responsible. Talk to him/her.
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An airhorn should only be used outdoors. These can output 120 decibels, enough to cause pain and temporary hearing impairment.
Was thinking of the small can type, not one for a train. But yeah, not too loud.