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Re: To HN: Looking for people to talk to...

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Post by silvia77 »

This is the first comment I ever written on YC News, your story was strangely compelling. You are a very talented writer, you can really capture the emotion though your words..

I go to college too and there have been some times where I felt the same way.. The best thing to do is to get involved with something you are interested in and meet people through there. Use events or activities as a medium to get closer to interesting people, its one thing that has really worked for me.

People are naturally social creatures, its probably hard but force yourself to go out and meet people. The best way to start a conversation is just to say hi. Yea you will probably get rejected by 90% of the people you meet but keep at it and the 10% will more than make up for all of those failures.

Also if you want to talk feel free to email me at chris.r.mccann [at] gmail.com I'd be happy to talk

Re: To HN: Looking for people to talk to...

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Post by stevenboudreau »

silvia77 wrote: post #21

This is the first comment I ever written on YC News, your story was strangely compelling. You are a very talented writer, you can really capture the emotion though your words.. I go to college too and there have been some times where I felt the same way.. The best thing to do is to get involved with something you are interested in and meet people through there. Use events or activities as a medium to get closer to in…

Thanks for the compliment and advice.

Re: To HN: Looking for people to talk to...

#25

Post by elai »

stevenboudreau wrote: post #18
erickhill wrote: post #13

There is a strangely sad yet intensely kind message inside this post. . . so unlike anything I've ever seen in a forum like this. Not sure why it compelled me to write this comment, but it did. I'm very happy to see the community rise around you here. HN has got to be one of the best communities out there. Be sure to reach out to your fellow human beings in person, if you can. Massive colleges/universities can seem c…

Ironically, I go to a small Liberal Arts college. I think my experiences can happen anywhere. It's tough being a kid these days, making friends, and more importantly, keeping friends. I appreciate your comments, as well as everyone else's, very much! Thank you.

Yeah, especially if you don't drink alcohol. I've heard that around 24/25 is when people get over the novelty of it and start not caring about it as much. Maybe you can move to a country where nobody drinks. I can't think of one that isn't islamic although :( It's sad that people need alcohol to be 'drunk' (stupid, goofy and social), it's such a crutch.

What I do is talk to random people on the street/mall/coffee shop with complete honesty that look interesting to you. Maybe even a few girls ;) Some will get nowhere, some will putter, others you'll click. People from more social cultures (latin,etc) are a lot less uptight. There's millions of people out there in your city today, a few of them have GOT to be interesting :P Or create user groups or meetup groups or whatever your interested in and advertise! And organize, and initiate. And keep on going and going an going. When your the one who starts it, your the one with the ultimate choice.

And to be honest, programming doesn't have to be an anti-social job. There's a lot of ranting and raving with your fellow co-workers ;) It's like saying film-making is anti-social because you have to sit infront of a terminal editing video, thinking up scripts and creating sets.

Re: To HN: Looking for people to talk to...

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Post by DTrejo »

kyro wrote: post #2

You should come into the IRC room. There are a lot of cool people. #startups on irc.freenode.net. My AIM is hybridxaos. Also, Kyro Beshay in Orange County, UCI, and UCSD on Facebook / kyro on #startups. I also do webcam shows every Thursday night, but that'll cost you.

The #startups channel is booming. Lots of great discussions and once the good articles on HN have been read its a great place to go talk.

Re: To HN: Looking for people to talk to...

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Post by stevenboudreau »

elai wrote: post #25
stevenboudreau wrote: post #18

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Ironically, I go to a small Liberal Arts college. I think my experiences can happen anywhere. It's tough being a kid these days, making friends, and more importantly, keeping friends. I appreciate your comments, as well as everyone else's, very much! Thank you.

Yeah, especially if you don't drink alcohol. I've heard that around 24/25 is when people get over the novelty of it and start not caring about it as much. Maybe you can move to a country where nobody drinks. I can't think of one that isn't islamic although :( It's sad that people need alcohol to be 'drunk' (stupid, goofy and social), it's such a crutch. What I do is talk to random people on the street/mall/coffee sho…

I don't think it is or has to be either. But when I was "learning to become a programmer," I just found myself becoming increasingly disconnected from the world. It was as if I was constantly thinking about programming, etc. and I didn't want to be bothered.

Re: To HN: Looking for people to talk to...

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Post by davidw »

stevenboudreau wrote: post #24
markbao wrote: post #7

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You should try #startups, about 30 members on average.

What's #startups?

It's an IRC channel. You can connect using this:

http://www.mibbit.com/

#startups is the channel, irc.freenode.net is the network (it is on the list, just a ways down).

Re: To HN: Looking for people to talk to...

#30

Post by hollerith »

It becomes much more likely that this kind of human interaction will have a big payoff for you if it includes a face-to-face meeting early in the interaction or friendship. Consequently, it would help people like me considering whether to take you up on your offer if you would say where you live.

Particularly, I live in the northern part of San Francisco Bay area and almost never travel out of the Bay area, so I would be interested if you lived somewhere in the Bay area (north or south) or were planning a trip out here soon.

ith@sonic.net

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