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We need a different word than "friends" for such bonds though... Someone who does not know your birthday is not a friend.
Repeated interaction is a necessary first step to friendship, you cannot befriend someone you don’t see. My gym buddies are now my friends, and we see each other regularly outside of the gym context. Also, most of my friends don’t know when my birthday is, so that’s a bad metric imho. Birthdays are not universally important across the population.
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I am not sure if that helps you, a tech salary (or similar) might be necessary to pull it off this way : I am not exactly disciplined, I have thought for years about working out instead of actually doing it. Until one year ago. I have started working with a trainer. It is insanely expensive BUT it helps a lot in establishing a routine. The exercises themselves are pretty standard, but having somebody to give you a pr…
That's exactly what did it for me, too. Except it wasn't a trainer, but a Couch to 5k like podcast. I found one that was much much more beginner friendly than C25k and also gave a strength and rest plan. Using the podcast and seeing hte weeks go by has made me much more motivated to get out and run, even on wet 5 degree centigrade days, let alone the 30 degree days. Just something to hold yourself accountable to, rea…
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#33I have a secret startup plan - MOOPs Massive Open Online Psychology. You wire your house with iPhones or Alexas recording your daily conversations with your family - it records things like "number of positive responses" vs "number negative responses" when replying to your spouse or children. There are dozens of simple verbal checks one can pull out of even fairly raw speech to text, let alone visual dances. And imagi…
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#34Something about this article felt disjointed. I read back over the jarring part to see if I had somehow skipped over a section or read it in the wrong order.
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#35When I used to do conscious self improvement, I journaled. I simply answered the prompt: what did I do to achieve my goal today, and what can I do better? This had the same effect as their quantitative approach: you start to see patterns. I’d suggest: the profound enabler of change isn’t the quantitative aspect of it, it is that you’re logging data in the first place. Our brains can’t log that much. Notepads and spre…
Sounds like a refreshingly simple method. Why did you stop?
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Group fitness classes at some gyms have a stable cohort that you’ll bond with over time.
We need a different word than "friends" for such bonds though... Someone who does not know your birthday is not a friend.
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#37I have a secret startup plan - MOOPs Massive Open Online Psychology. You wire your house with iPhones or Alexas recording your daily conversations with your family - it records things like "number of positive responses" vs "number negative responses" when replying to your spouse or children. There are dozens of simple verbal checks one can pull out of even fairly raw speech to text, let alone visual dances. And imagi…
You may want to hit him up for his tech setup :)
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#38When I used to do conscious self improvement, I journaled. I simply answered the prompt: what did I do to achieve my goal today, and what can I do better? This had the same effect as their quantitative approach: you start to see patterns. I’d suggest: the profound enabler of change isn’t the quantitative aspect of it, it is that you’re logging data in the first place. Our brains can’t log that much. Notepads and spre…
so... I'm with this, but... I know the results my logs would be. I want to work out and be in great shape. Run, stretch, weights, yada yada. I can log all day. It won't change the fact that I'm lazy/just don't have the work ethic to actually do it.
One is habits. Start with a low effort commitment that establishes the habit. For the gym that might be going to the gym. Not working out, or even entering the building. Literally just driving to the gym twice a week. And most of the time you'll end up working out anyway.
Another is planning. Plan exactly exactly when and how you'll go to the gym in detail. Ok Thursday I will leave work early to make it to the gym on time.
Another is imagining how your life would be different if you worked out and what you need to do to achieve it. Imagine all of the benefits as wellnas the sacrifices. Imagime how hard its going to be to motivate yourself to drive the gym after a hard day. Imagine rescheduling friends for dinner to work out.
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#40I have a secret startup plan - MOOPs Massive Open Online Psychology. You wire your house with iPhones or Alexas recording your daily conversations with your family - it records things like "number of positive responses" vs "number negative responses" when replying to your spouse or children. There are dozens of simple verbal checks one can pull out of even fairly raw speech to text, let alone visual dances. And imagi…
If you ignore the privacy complications, this is actually quite an interesting idea.