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How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Re: How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Post by shrimp_emoji »

Invictus0 wrote: post #40
lcall wrote: post #31

Long experience, observation and reading lead me to say that the pop-culture idea of "falling in love" is just hormones and curiosity and adventure. Real, true love is a decision to faithfully be there and serve a person through thick and thin. It is best if that decision is well-made. Related to courtship and marriage, I have put many thoughts here (based on experience, research and lots of observation): http://luke…

You should really reconsider the UI for your site. Yours is the most aggressively hostile website I have encountered in recent memory.

I would say "spartan".

"Aggressively hostile" more brings to mind the pop-up, notification-requesting, cookies-warning sites that don't render, double-render, or GIGANTICALLY-render elements when you (wisely) turn off JS that most web entities use. : P

Re: How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Post by tempromance1 »

emit_time wrote: post #12

This really doesn't relate too much, but I've realized over time that I'm essentially in love with one of my best friends (of the opposite gender). We've been friends for 10 years, and just spending time around her makes me feel so relaxed and satisfied with life, it's a unique feeling to someone like me who hasn't been in much of a relationship so far in my life. I'm able to maintain a good friendship despite this,…

Same here.

Friends for 5 or 6 years. All the same feelings you mentioned. Thought it would never go anywhere but was happy with it as it was. She initiated it being something more. Now we're coming up to our 4th wedding anniversary and I can confidently say both of us could not be any happier and we're even trying for kids.

Anything can happen. Never say never.

Re: How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Post by nitrogen »

Invictus0 wrote: post #40
lcall wrote: post #31

Long experience, observation and reading lead me to say that the pop-culture idea of "falling in love" is just hormones and curiosity and adventure. Real, true love is a decision to faithfully be there and serve a person through thick and thin. It is best if that decision is well-made. Related to courtship and marriage, I have put many thoughts here (based on experience, research and lots of observation): http://luke…

You should really reconsider the UI for your site. Yours is the most aggressively hostile website I have encountered in recent memory.

It looks like raw html styling. Maybe browsers' default stylesheets aren't keeping up with the needs of all users.

Re: How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Post by Invictus0 »

shrimp_emoji wrote: post #41
Invictus0 wrote: post #40

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You should really reconsider the UI for your site. Yours is the most aggressively hostile website I have encountered in recent memory.

I would say "spartan". "Aggressively hostile" more brings to mind the pop-up, notification-requesting, cookies-warning sites that don't render, double-render, or GIGANTICALLY-render elements when you (wisely) turn off JS that most web entities use. : P

True, those are worse. Maybe my eyes are shit but I just can't even read that page.

Re: How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Post by lcall »

Invictus0 wrote: post #40
lcall wrote: post #31

Long experience, observation and reading lead me to say that the pop-culture idea of "falling in love" is just hormones and curiosity and adventure. Real, true love is a decision to faithfully be there and serve a person through thick and thin. It is best if that decision is well-made. Related to courtship and marriage, I have put many thoughts here (based on experience, research and lots of observation): http://luke…

You should really reconsider the UI for your site. Yours is the most aggressively hostile website I have encountered in recent memory.

Thanks for your candor. I grant you it's not very prettified. For someone with my personality (sounds like not for yours, that's OK), that could be a good thing: I like text, lightweight and skimmable (though I know elegance and pictures are more popular and pleasing). I try to make it so someone can read a page, and click parts of interest for more details, something like an outline, to make it navigable & useful to different interests, even with large amounts of information eventually contained there. Also, it is generated from my OM organizer software, so each page is not designed separately. And I have to prioritize limited time & energy carefully.

Having said that, specific suggestions are very welcome. It also has an email address for feedback (in the small footer). :)

Edit: would a sans-serif font, and/or larger, help?

Re: How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Post by fjsolwmv »

lcall wrote: post #31

Long experience, observation and reading lead me to say that the pop-culture idea of "falling in love" is just hormones and curiosity and adventure. Real, true love is a decision to faithfully be there and serve a person through thick and thin. It is best if that decision is well-made. Related to courtship and marriage, I have put many thoughts here (based on experience, research and lots of observation): http://luke…

"Love" is a terribly overloaded word, perhaps because billions of people intentionally abuse its meaning. An aphorism I enjoy is "love is something you do, not something you feel". Also, "love is when you value someone (or sometimes some thing) else as much as you value yourself."

Re: How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Post by lbotos »

fjsolwmv wrote: post #46
lcall wrote: post #31

Long experience, observation and reading lead me to say that the pop-culture idea of "falling in love" is just hormones and curiosity and adventure. Real, true love is a decision to faithfully be there and serve a person through thick and thin. It is best if that decision is well-made. Related to courtship and marriage, I have put many thoughts here (based on experience, research and lots of observation): http://luke…

"Love" is a terribly overloaded word, perhaps because billions of people intentionally abuse its meaning. An aphorism I enjoy is "love is something you do, not something you feel". Also, "love is when you value someone (or sometimes some thing) else as much as you value yourself."

I've described it as such:

Love is both the emotion and the action. As humans, we should expect love the emotion to wax and wane, and there is beauty in that ebb and flow. But love the action, is steadfast and true, as in we can always make choices to keep it as such.

Re: How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Post by FR10 »

lcall wrote: post #45
Invictus0 wrote: post #40

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You should really reconsider the UI for your site. Yours is the most aggressively hostile website I have encountered in recent memory.

Thanks for your candor. I grant you it's not very prettified. For someone with my personality (sounds like not for yours, that's OK), that could be a good thing: I like text, lightweight and skimmable (though I know elegance and pictures are more popular and pleasing). I try to make it so someone can read a page, and click parts of interest for more details, something like an outline, to make it navigable & useful to…

Check these websites [1][2][3][4] (in order) that makes fun of the design in modern websites, which I consider much "aggressive hostile" with cookies and trackers than your site

[1] https://motherfuckingwebsite.com [2] http://bettermotherfuckingwebsite.com [3] https://evenbettermotherfucking.website [4] https://thebestmotherfucking.website

Re: How do we know when we’ve fallen in love? (2016)

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Post by raducu »

emit_time wrote: post #12

This really doesn't relate too much, but I've realized over time that I'm essentially in love with one of my best friends (of the opposite gender). We've been friends for 10 years, and just spending time around her makes me feel so relaxed and satisfied with life, it's a unique feeling to someone like me who hasn't been in much of a relationship so far in my life. I'm able to maintain a good friendship despite this,…

To me, what you describe would be long-term love.

I've fallen in love very few times, but the last one(about 5 years ago) felt 95% like being on high quality stimulants.

I felt like I could conquer mountains, pick up any new habbit for her, that life was so bright and fun, I felt like I was the best version of myself when I was around her, that I was always at 110% performance; I found every gesture, look and verbal habbits stick in my head; I would just up and leave in the middle of work meetings because we were having lunch together.

When I randomly met her at the subway my knees would go weak.

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