On the other hand, kneejerk cynicism is the easiest and most cliched method of appearing sophisticated, but even more toxic.
Social media is spreading 'toxic positivity'
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#42I'm constantly having to remind my wife that she's a good mother. She keeps seeing all the posts on Facebook from her groups about how some woman made dinner, built a diorama and made enough to buy a new purse from her side business all in one day! And she thinks she's a slacker because "all" she can do is feed the kids and read them a story. I have to keep telling her that she's only seeing the highlight reel of tho…
This place gets that ways some times. I like reading the comments here, as there are a lot of insightful comments that I often learn more from than the article itself. Though sometimes it feels that if you are not working at one of the FAANGs making $400k/year that you are a total loser.
I sometimes feel that way too.
I suspect there's a deeper lesson about what we permit to be the bases for our self-esteems, and what we see as our proper calling in life.
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#43...written by Glamour magazine. Perhaps one of the greatest sinners in this regard actively profiting from content that leads to covetousness, jealousy, etc. leading to mental health issues and what not.
I know, right? I get my tips from Teen Vogue: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-keep-your-internet-hi... (Actually a good article)
Teen Vogue has actually been doing some of the best hard-hitting journalism for the last few years. I'm not even close to ashamed of consuming their content.
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#44I'm constantly having to remind my wife that she's a good mother. She keeps seeing all the posts on Facebook from her groups about how some woman made dinner, built a diorama and made enough to buy a new purse from her side business all in one day! And she thinks she's a slacker because "all" she can do is feed the kids and read them a story. I have to keep telling her that she's only seeing the highlight reel of tho…
This "highlight reel" excuse is an excuse. I mean, why a person has a better highlight reel than another? Probably the one with a better highlight reel has a better life.
I think denying the truthfulness in highlight reels is a form of toxic positivity.
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#45This “toxic positivity” concept is best avoided if you are a leader.
We are herd animals. Feelings and attitudes are contagious. If you want to lead, you should always ask: “Does sharing this help the herd?”
Be positive. It is encouraging and inspiring. Don’t be dishonest with your positivity.
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#46This article seems more related to social media, but my experience with toxic positivity at some former workplaces took the form of "Our startup is the best! We're so much better than all our competitors. Everything they do is wrong, and we do everything better!", which is a fine attitude to have in general, until its objectively not true, and I'm afraid to even say anything for fear of being a "hater". A "Salesperso…
Silicon Valley in general has mandated positivity to the point that if you ware honest about anything, you are labeled "negative" and shunned.
As someone outside of SV, I too have heard that generalization. Can anyone with varied experience inside SV confirm or deny?
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#47The next article this website wants me to read is "Literally everyone is wearing this Mango suit on social media RN". I actually don't know much about this particular magazine, but one wishes that as an organization they would have more self-awareness about the mixed messages they send.
> Literally everyone is wearing this £39 Topshop dress on Instagram right now
> So many people are wearing this Zara blouse on Instagram right now
> All your favourite Instagrammers are wearing this high street range right now
It's as if they're waiting for readers to notice the belabored joke.
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#48I'm constantly having to remind my wife that she's a good mother. She keeps seeing all the posts on Facebook from her groups about how some woman made dinner, built a diorama and made enough to buy a new purse from her side business all in one day! And she thinks she's a slacker because "all" she can do is feed the kids and read them a story. I have to keep telling her that she's only seeing the highlight reel of tho…
This place gets that ways some times. I like reading the comments here, as there are a lot of insightful comments that I often learn more from than the article itself. Though sometimes it feels that if you are not working at one of the FAANGs making $400k/year that you are a total loser.
Though sometimes it feels that if you are not working at one of the FAANGs making $400k/year that you are a total loser.
That's the socially acceptable thing to brag about, but it's absolutely not "everyone" here. A lot of people downplay it if they don't fit that narrative.
But it's kind of a skin deep thing. HN is vastly more diverse than that.
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#49I'm constantly having to remind my wife that she's a good mother. She keeps seeing all the posts on Facebook from her groups about how some woman made dinner, built a diorama and made enough to buy a new purse from her side business all in one day! And she thinks she's a slacker because "all" she can do is feed the kids and read them a story. I have to keep telling her that she's only seeing the highlight reel of tho…
This reminded me of the Netflix show The Curious Creations of Christine McConnell where it's an ongoing joke how she wants to get ready for guests in the evening, so she makes this outrageously detailed gingerbread house then nips off to construct an elaborate dress before returning to solve world hunger or something. My wife and I speculated that it's a subtle dig at people who post like that on Facebook like they c…
Pretty sure it’s a dig at what people thought about her. I’m sure most people who follow her think they’re slackers. Granted she is very talented but coming from a wealthy family allowed her to pursue her arts completely.
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#50I'm constantly having to remind my wife that she's a good mother. She keeps seeing all the posts on Facebook from her groups about how some woman made dinner, built a diorama and made enough to buy a new purse from her side business all in one day! And she thinks she's a slacker because "all" she can do is feed the kids and read them a story. I have to keep telling her that she's only seeing the highlight reel of tho…
This place gets that ways some times. I like reading the comments here, as there are a lot of insightful comments that I often learn more from than the article itself. Though sometimes it feels that if you are not working at one of the FAANGs making $400k/year that you are a total loser.
What I do is take it and turn it on 'em. I make about $15k a year but it's off open source software development on Patreon plus some livestreaming, and literally everything I produce is available free.
Want to impress me? Continue to make $400k a year whilst giving everything you do away for free. Otherwise you are merely exploiting the workers and making things worse for everyone, and the more astonishing your 'score' at capitalism the worse you are :D
For all that folks like that spout on about 'making the world a better place', often that means 'cashing out on a software patent for an obscure relational database interfacing protocol'… very better, much wow. That really did a lot, and was unequivocally helpful to humanity ;P :)