I think there may be a mismatch in terminology here.
Above, "associativity" was used in the sense of "the property that any re-association produces the same answer". It's used that way when talking about properties of an operation, often in an algebraic context.
I think you're using it in the sense of "an understanding of how operands should be associated". It's often used that way when describing a language in practice, like "(+) is right-associative".
If we're going to be working with expressions like (a + b + c), then whenever + is not (sense 1) associative we clearly need some understanding about what that expression means. But we can restrict ourselves to dealing with fully-parenthesized expressions and not need any sort of "this associates to the left", and still properties like associativity and commutativity can be interesting.
In the case of your trees, associativity means any trees with the same ordering in the leaves (with an in-order traversal) must be equivalent. Commutativity means any trees that differ by swapping the left/right children of a parent node must be equivalent. You can have neither property, either property, or both properties.