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> Despite everything that had happened with my mom and sister, I had made one of the most common mistakes; all of my social media accounts were public.
I've taken the opposite stance and preferred public accounts: that way I don't post anything I'm not comfortable with being seen by the world. IMHO the false sense of privacy setting would end up making me providing a lot more data to networks.
Personally, I don't feel comfortable with the idea of my photos being taken out of context and used in a way that I wouldn't agree with. Oddly enough, most of my friends don't see this as an issue.
My wife and I recently had our first child, and we decided we didn't want her to have any kind of social media presence until she was old enough to make that decision for herself. It's been a challenge ensuring friends and family don't post stuff about our daughter, but reading this reinforces that we're making the right choice.
What is "old enough"?
"Can a child freely give consent to be photographed, especially in vulnerable positions including nudity, when the photographer is a parent? Do these photographs unintentionally put children at greater risk given the reality of pedophilia in society? Do they unintentionally encourage a sexualized view of childhood? Does such work on any level exploit these actual children?"
https://quod.lib.umich.edu/cgi/t/text/text-idx?cc=mqr;c=mqr;...
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Indeed, really impressive. It also impressed me to see what she's involved in at school: > Sonia Bokhari is an 8th grader and a persuasive and narrative writer. She is also the leader of her middle school’s Gay-Straight Alliance and a member of the school’s Environmental Club. She might not be the average 14yo :)
Yeah, she might be the parent-pressured 14yo.
> When I saw the pictures that she had been posting on Facebook for years, I felt utterly embarrassed, and deeply betrayed. Well, that's because you're 13, the age when kids turn blase and embarrassed about being kids, and of the childish things they used to like. It's not like her mother did anything specially wrong, e.g. posting the letter to the tooth fairy, and so on. It's only embarrassing to her because she's 1…
I respectfully disagree. Children have a right to their own privacy from the rest of the world and it is a parents' responsibility to respect that. My son is only 11 months old but neither my wife, our family/friends, or myself post pictures of him or any intimate details on social media. They can be shared privately but not on social media.
If the parent's Facebook is private, that'll probably be the end of that.
Since I'm perfectly willing to do this for my child once they're old enough to form opinions about their own privacy, I don't see the problem with sharing photos of them to my private network while they aren't.
Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc are too big and too open for kids (heck, I am a father of two and I don't feel comfortable on the platforms because they are too public).
Also, I have no desire to see my children use traditional social media, they are toxic and are breeding grounds for bullying.
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One of the reasons I left Facebook was the amount of web presence people give their young children. It's not that I don't think children are adorable. I'm talking about parents who have a baby and then spend every day posting photos about every event in the child's life. I know 3 people in my relatively small circle who have been posting on behalf of their children for years . Maybe I'm a freak, but I think there's s…
I totally agree, I deactivated my Facebook a few years back. We use WhatsApp to share pictures and information about our baby with close friends and family, just hope the end-to-end encryption is legit. One big concern for me was the idea of Facebook having a 'shadow profile' of our daughter without our consent.