I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me • Hacker News Board

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by sacado2 » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:39 PM UTC

gringoDan wrote: post #15

I sympathize with this perspective. I too would be livid and mortified if my family shared embarrassing photos of me in exchange for the quick dopamine hit that validation from acquaintances provides. I'm hopeful that in the next several years there is a pushback against social media and the idea that for an experience to be valid, it must be shared. There's something to be said for having an album of photos that you…

Yes. The last generation was taught from a very young age that what you put online is available for all, and learned from the mistakes of their older siblings / parents. I see way more "controversial" content on facebook / instagram from my older friends than from the younger ones.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by uiri » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:40 PM UTC

even those who post constantly are more aware than people just a few years ago about how much information the internet is absorbing about us.

I'm about 10 years older than the author, and we were aware. The Cambridge Analytica scandal is just the straw that broke the Camel's back. That was Facebook's MO all the way back circa 2010. It was just that most of us teenagers at the time simply didn't care. The adults warned us the same way they warn teens today but for the most part they didn't care about the data mining back then either.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by samayylmao » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:41 PM UTC

This is one smart kid for that age. The critical thinking and reasoning skills are on point. Its comforting to know that the younger generations are more informed about the consequences of poor use of technology.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by shados » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:41 PM UTC

coldtea wrote: post #20

> When I saw the pictures that she had been posting on Facebook for years, I felt utterly embarrassed, and deeply betrayed. Well, that's because you're 13, the age when kids turn blase and embarrassed about being kids, and of the childish things they used to like. It's not like her mother did anything specially wrong, e.g. posting the letter to the tooth fairy, and so on. It's only embarrassing to her because she's 1…

I have colleagues on Facebook who post literally everything their kids do, which means it's out there for everyone to see, and it will never die. God forbids Facebook gets hacked too.

It annoyed me when I was a kid that my parents were just babbling about everything I did to family, and the internet didn't exist back then. The thought of what they'd have done if I was a teenager today... ugh.

Ill never advocate for parents to never do ANYTHING that makes their kids uncomfortable...that's just part of growing up. But putting it all on the internet for their 750 facebook "friends"...no just no.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by ponyous » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:42 PM UTC

taude wrote: post #18

franciscojgo wrote: post #4

I'm more surprised by the story telling and narrative of the 14 year old author! Impressed. Pretty sure the only thing I was worrying about when 14 was how to get past the min. word count and not use "however" so much.

Probably went through some professional editing before publishing....

Definitely. Some of my stuff was published when I was really young. From what I remember it was edited for clarity and slightly reordered for a better narrative. Core ideas and point persisted.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by VRay » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:43 PM UTC

dkarbayev wrote: post #9

franciscojgo wrote: post #4

I'm more surprised by the story telling and narrative of the 14 year old author! Impressed. Pretty sure the only thing I was worrying about when 14 was how to get past the min. word count and not use "however" so much.

Feels so fake, to be honest. I don’t know, may be she surely is that gifted or developed, but internet made me skeptical and doubtful about everything.

I knew a lot of kids who typed that way when I was that age.. (not me though, I loved my 1337speak)

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by josefresco » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:43 PM UTC

coldtea wrote: post #20

> When I saw the pictures that she had been posting on Facebook for years, I felt utterly embarrassed, and deeply betrayed. Well, that's because you're 13, the age when kids turn blase and embarrassed about being kids, and of the childish things they used to like. It's not like her mother did anything specially wrong, e.g. posting the letter to the tooth fairy, and so on. It's only embarrassing to her because she's 1…

I had this same reaction, as a parent with one tween, and one soon to be tween who are both active on social media already. My wife isn't one of "those" Facebook moms who posts everything, so I could understand if the author had a mom like that, but she does share photos of our vacations, and other moments of our child's life with a close circle of friends and family.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by sacado2 » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:43 PM UTC

coldtea wrote: post #20

> When I saw the pictures that she had been posting on Facebook for years, I felt utterly embarrassed, and deeply betrayed. Well, that's because you're 13, the age when kids turn blase and embarrassed about being kids, and of the childish things they used to like. It's not like her mother did anything specially wrong, e.g. posting the letter to the tooth fairy, and so on. It's only embarrassing to her because she's 1…

In France, it is legally wrong, as you cannot share a pricture of somebody without consent. That will be interesting in a few years (very soon, actually), as some young adults are pissed off by the pictures of them their parents shared for cheap facebook karma.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by DoreenMichele » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:43 PM UTC

I cannot imagine posting so much about a child of mine without them being aware of it at all. I talk a lot about my sons. They know. If I feel it is a story with sensitive information, I run it past them to see if they are okay with me saying that.

I can't really comprehend the thinking here of the family members who did this. They talk about her but not to her?

That's the opposite of "social" behavior. That's treating her like an object, not a person.

Re: I’m 14, and I quit social media after discovering what was posted about me

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Post by lambdadmitry » Wed, Mar 20, 2019, 3:45 PM UTC

coldtea wrote: post #20

> When I saw the pictures that she had been posting on Facebook for years, I felt utterly embarrassed, and deeply betrayed. Well, that's because you're 13, the age when kids turn blase and embarrassed about being kids, and of the childish things they used to like. It's not like her mother did anything specially wrong, e.g. posting the letter to the tooth fairy, and so on. It's only embarrassing to her because she's 1…

>It's not like her mother did anything specially wrong, e.g. posting the letter to the tooth fairy, and so on.

Not sure if it's really "not wrong". There is a growing notion in Western society that kids are actually people and have rights, and not just their parents' trinkets. Would you like someone to share your correspondence on social media, even if it's misaddressed? Or post your naked pictures without your consent (which kids can't give yet)? I suspect you'd mind very much, and no amount of rhetoric like "you're only upset because you're not enlightened enough" will change your mind. Why is it OK then when parents do that?