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The concept of not having your own private bank account that isn't shared with your significant other or anyone else baffles me.
Why? It baffles me that a husband and wife don't trust each other enough to pool their resources.
Just as importantly, I can't imagine that I would have zero chilling effect on my spouse either. So even if they preferred a joint account, I'd insist _they_ have a private account that I couldn't see as well, and that it had some liquidity in it.
It is important to me that my spouse feels as free as possible, and that they have some personal life which is just for themselves, outside of my view.