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Why I Quit Tech and Became a Therapist

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Re: Why I Quit Tech and Became a Therapist

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Yeah, I can't see how a professional services company overlooks this casually, unless they're really hurting for new work. Can you imagine a client treating their tax lawyers or accountants like this ? But then, if the service company needs the new business that bad, that's hard to square with "there are not enough IT people".

I report it, they told me "She wasnt serious"

If it was me I'd report it to the police before management.

Re: Why I Quit Tech and Became a Therapist

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Correction: "Decided to become a therapist". >Shortly after beginning my Hakomi training, I applied and was accepted to the professional mental health counseling masters program at Lesley University in Cambridge, Massachusetts, where I'm studying and training through 2020 to get my licensure. Going through schooling is not the same as becoming something. The title implies that there was success found here, but so far…

"Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome." -Arthur Ashe

David Mackler is for me the Edward Snowden of the psychotherapy, he burned out as hell of it and dedicates his youtube channel to tell it and teaches how therapy works these days "How to Be a Successful BAD THERAPIST" is great, also talks a lot about childhood traumas and other interesting topics. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BVuGPT6QBEc

Re: Why I Quit Tech and Became a Therapist

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"There just isn't enough skilled IT people." Does that reconcile with ageism?

Certainly an interesting point. In r/sysadmin there's a tongue in cheek comment of 'quitting IT to become a goat farmer' I actually personally place it really at 1 place. https://www.ontario.ca/document/industries-and-jobs-exemptio... The Ontario government(where I live) passed laws before the Y2K hoax removing: The right not to be forced to work 20 hour days. The right not to be called back into work 2 hours after a…

Y2K was not a hoax! It was the rare case of all the rhetoric making people do the necessary planning work.

Re: Why I Quit Tech and Became a Therapist

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I knew there would be some relation with drugs in the text. People who think psychedelic drugs (even Cannabis) are just about 'having fun' or 'getting high' are skipping past the biggest ability these compounds have: to make you change some already hardcoded aspects of your life. Someone who isn't me started working out and eating properly after having an epiphany on cannabis which prompted him to openly evaluate his…

Yes I think they can be used to heal with the --force args, a friend of mine broke an addiction to porn&fapping by having a realization while high on cannabis, he wasn't a regular user, read about set-and-setting looking to seat and stare himself in the mirror, the realization that was like watching his life passing in one second, helped to make him comprehend how much energy he was wasting, energy that might be used to be a better husband and father. No more porn have been seen since years... the fap is made... but by the hands of his wife.

Re: Why I Quit Tech and Became a Therapist

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Interesting. I quit psychology/counseling and work in tech now and the thought of my work being absolutely meaningless gives me a lot of anxiety, I hope I'll come to terms with it one day. Correction, I'm sure I'll come to terms with it but the transition is far from being smooth and takes longer than I expected.

i really feel for people who drive themselves crazy over their work, its impact, and their overall purpose. My poor wife struggles and suffers constantly over these things year after year. Maybe i'm just mentally handicapped in some way but i like to code and solve business problems and so i'm a consultant who codes and solves business problems. I've never thought about if my work is meaningful, it's impact whether g…

You're not mentally handicapped, you're just in harmony with yourself which is amazing and very rare. :)

I would advise your wife to try volunteering (for whatever cause she finds important) if she hasn't already. I've started volunteering at a local NGO after switching careers and it's easily my favorite time of the month, gives me lots of energy and peace of mind, wish I could do it more often.

Re: Why I Quit Tech and Became a Therapist

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I love to read these kind of stories, It's hard to quit everything in life and pursue a new way of living. Not everybody has the guts to do it. I fall in this group of people that are too afraid for the unknown and sit in the job not seeing the point of it almost everyday.

I think what you'll find if you read more of these stories is that it's not bravery that causes people to switch, it's fear.

Read it again.

Re: Why I Quit Tech and Became a Therapist

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Hey I'm doing the same thing! We have little else in common though, mainly I just figured I really want to help people and tech helps in such an abstract way it doesn't feel rewarding. I do meditate though, so my own process isn't entirely devoid of spirituality. Also, being from Canada, I find it really odd that you can just dive straight into the master's degree and become a psychotherapist (I know this varies by s…

Where in Quebec are you located? I know a few psychologists here but nobody who actually left tech for it, it sounds like an interesting combination of skills.

Re: Why I Quit Tech and Became a Therapist

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There is a severe workplace burnout problem in IT(especially MSPs); which when not addressed grows into bigger mental health issues and even literal sicknesses. There just isn't enough skilled IT people. The industry is immature and is bottom heavy. The top performers and seniors, are then overwhelmed with work and the business is unable to hire more senior people to reduce workload. Then the business keeps growing a…

Have seen negativity as well also have been the source of it but luckily I realized it. But that's the problem: You are invested because you care and there is too much around you you can't control.

Not caring is basically quitting inside. Is that better than negativity? Perhaps. Perhaps a new company would help but perhaps not.

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