I like the point of self examination, and not assuming you know others intentions, but I really dislike this sort of phrase reassignment. The one that really bothers me, is when people say "I feel like..." followed by something that is not a feeling. Changing the wording only works when everyone is on board with the reason for doing so.
Anything that follows "I feel like" is going to be some passive aggressive garbage. This is why I always say "I think", "I strongly suggest", "I agree", "I disagree" instead. You have to recognize that some things are subjective but telling someone that they should do something because you "feel" it needs to be done comes across as incredibly flaky and self-involved.