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My oldest brother had a real love of mathematics and got a masters degree but never even applied to a PhD program. When I asked him about it he just said he was tired of working on other people's problems. He had a quiet programming position in a large company that gave him time to work on personal projects. Among other things he volunteered at the local schools teaching "fun" math. I guess I'm just agreeing with you…
I don’t know what PhD program your brother was looking at but ideally candidacy committees won’t pass you unless you chose the problem or made it your own. Where your brother is right is that forming such a ideal committee is mostly politics.
He didn't care about the status of having a PhD
He didn't need a PhD to advance his career
He was having fun doing math stuff anyway