Sounded like the typical dating website - before I read it. Much more intriguing.
Here's Why Someone Would Seek Rejection for 30 Days Straight
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I still don't get why in America it's popular to say that ones marriage is sexless. A study came out a few years ago trying to prove that married people were happier, but only ended up proving that on average married people have more sex. I don't get why the joke would be funny, I would find it sad if true and bizarre if made up.
With each other?
Does it matter? Report findings: get married = have more sex, on average.
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There's another name for rejection therapy Or "marriage."
I still don't get why in America it's popular to say that ones marriage is sexless. A study came out a few years ago trying to prove that married people were happier, but only ended up proving that on average married people have more sex. I don't get why the joke would be funny, I would find it sad if true and bizarre if made up.
It's just playing off the old "ball-n-chain"-style of marriage humor often trotted out by stand-up comedians and sit-coms for a laugh. I wouldn't take it too seriously.
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#34Is there something special about getting one rejection each day? I've been doing part-time canvasing and I can accumulate far more than 30 rejections in the less than an hour. But I still have no-rejection days. Does it matter?
Rejection isn't really the goal. The goal is to find opportunities, and rejections are the indicator of whether you're trying hard enough or not. So if you're happy with the opportunities you're finding there's no need to seek out more rejection.
Excellent point. It is so useful for a lean startup situation - the objective is to find a scalable business model. Rejections are great to pivot to the right path!
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It's not about being rejected every single day . It's about learning to accept rejection more easily, which it sounds like you're doing fine on with part-time canvasing. (Or perhaps you could cope easily before that.) I'd take a bet that you're not the type this was designed for. For some, being rejected at all is a huge blow to ego, confidence, and self-esteem, which can have serious effects on mood and productivity…
"For some, being rejected at all is a huge blow to ego, confidence, and self-esteem, which can have serious effects on mood and productivity, for instance. For these people, getting rejected more often means that each rejection is less significant and reinforces the knowledge that rejection happens." Yes, but this sort of "therapy" only works if you have the right thought patterns to go with the rejection (i.e. not t…
That's what makes the game hard, and also what makes it worth it. The key is that repeated exposure leads to desensitization.
Fear of rejection is no different from other irrational (or at least maladaptive) fears -- and those often _are_ treated by repeated exposure to the source of the fear.
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#36There's another name for rejection therapy -- it's called sales work. Typically it's the kind of sales work hackers dislike. But plenty of people have built good careers around a sunny tolerance for rejection. Real estate agents, insurance sales people, cold callers, door-to-door sales people -- all of them experience many rejections for each closed sale. One successful sales person told me that "it's just a numbers…
I'm currently a salesguy doing door-to-door work for a telecom fiber optic campaign. I wouldn't quite call it a "sunny" attitude, but you definitely get used to it very, very fast. It's vanishingly rare that rejections are actually personal in any real sense anyhow. At least when business is concerned. Heck, even when they know you, it's rarely personal - personal circumstances and biases are a far greater factor tha…
Your comment got me thinking about how the rules of this game should perhaps be refined a little to make it more effective.
If the object of the game is to learn how to feel comfortable being rejected by people then perhaps it's better to not include rejections that result from policy in your score.
For example, if you ask for a discount in a store and the clerk rejects you, they are just acting on store policy, not giving a personal reaction.
If you sell door to door the person who tells you to get lost is most likely rejecting what you are selling or rejecting the idea of being harassed by a salesman, rather than rejecting you personally.
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I'm currently a salesguy doing door-to-door work for a telecom fiber optic campaign. I wouldn't quite call it a "sunny" attitude, but you definitely get used to it very, very fast. It's vanishingly rare that rejections are actually personal in any real sense anyhow. At least when business is concerned. Heck, even when they know you, it's rarely personal - personal circumstances and biases are a far greater factor tha…
Actually, when you're a developer trying to sell your own creation, you can easily take rejection personally. Maybe this is why hackers hate sales. This leads me to an idea: What about if a bunch of hacker entrepreneurs got together and agreed to try to sell eachother's products? It could actually be fun to try to pitch something where you have no emotional investment in the product. Naturally you would do your best…
And maybe like, the hacker doing selling part could receive some financial incentive to overcome the wasted time. And that incentive would of course be given by the hacker whose product is sold, because he could make a profit on that experiment. And like, part of it would be fixed, and part of it would depend on the acceptance, which could be called conversion rate?
Congrats, you've just invented the salesman :-) Joke aside, it might be fun to try to do some sales time to time.
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I'm currently a salesguy doing door-to-door work for a telecom fiber optic campaign. I wouldn't quite call it a "sunny" attitude, but you definitely get used to it very, very fast. It's vanishingly rare that rejections are actually personal in any real sense anyhow. At least when business is concerned. Heck, even when they know you, it's rarely personal - personal circumstances and biases are a far greater factor tha…
Your comment got me thinking about how the rules of this game should perhaps be refined a little to make it more effective. If the object of the game is to learn how to feel comfortable being rejected by people then perhaps it's better to not include rejections that result from policy in your score. For example, if you ask for a discount in a store and the clerk rejects you, they are just acting on store policy, not…
I guess psychology doesn't work like this. People can get quite afraid of rejections, even if it's not personal.
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#40Is there something special about getting one rejection each day? I've been doing part-time canvasing and I can accumulate far more than 30 rejections in the less than an hour. But I still have no-rejection days. Does it matter?
It's not about being rejected every single day . It's about learning to accept rejection more easily, which it sounds like you're doing fine on with part-time canvasing. (Or perhaps you could cope easily before that.) I'd take a bet that you're not the type this was designed for. For some, being rejected at all is a huge blow to ego, confidence, and self-esteem, which can have serious effects on mood and productivity…
No,
I have had quite a bit of trouble with rejection at different times.
My suspicion is that everyone who doesn't have some up-front, obvious fear of rejection has some other kind of fear buried somewhere in their psyche.