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What It’s Like to Be a Diagnosed Narcissist

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Just like a narcissist to write a post about himself.

If you read further in, you find out they are offering counselling without a degree or any particular qualifications. Of course they are, as a world-leading very special expert... ;)

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I think children get really harmed by parents who happen to be narcissists. I’ve seen a lot of hurt on Reddit about being raised by narcissists and It’s almost as if children of these parents should have been warned growing up and so they could have avoided the pain of realizing the love is different than normal. I think healcare needs to focus on the family development with a narcastic parental figure and similar to other illnesses.

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Just like a narcissist to write a post about himself.

There were about 200 instances of "I" in that post.

Is it surprising that you find what you're looking for when you enter into an article with a preset expectation? You all should try having a more open mind. The prospect that someone with NPD might actually be capable of making a positive difference on people outside themselves is promising.

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There's a good chance my brother suffers from borderline personality disorder. My therapist has explained the biggest issue about PDs: the disorders make a person extremely unlikely to seek out help, as (to put it poorly) they believe the problem exists with the people around them and not themselves. This means that very little is understood, medically, about the disorders and how to treat them effectively.

The author of this piece is an extreme anomaly, not for having a PD (it is surprisingly common), but for having received effective treatment.

If you suspect that someone in your life suffers from a PD, I strongly recommend "Out of the FOG[1]." It focuses on what you can do to protect yourself and potentially have the semblance of a healthy relationship.

[1]: https://outofthefog.website/toolbox-intro/

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There's a good chance my brother suffers from borderline personality disorder. My therapist has explained the biggest issue about PDs: the disorders make a person extremely unlikely to seek out help, as (to put it poorly) they believe the problem exists with the people around them and not themselves. This means that very little is understood, medically, about the disorders and how to treat them effectively. The autho…

There is also a healthy debate over the degree to which personality disorders represent a true disorder, or just an extreme personality on the edges of normal distribution. If you consider it in those terms, then “treatment” amounts to having someone voluntarily attempt to change their personality at a fundamental level. Even if they wanted to, how likely is that to succeed?

All too often treatment for personality disorders, especially in Cluster B just train people how to better fake “normalcy” and to speak the language of therapy.

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The author's comments about the "positive vs negative aspects of narcissism" are interesting.

I remember reading[0] about how one of the most effective ways to determine if someone is a narcissistic is to ask them... "are you a narcissistic?". That surprised me at first because self-diagnosis is almost always a bad idea, but on second glance it makes sense that people who think about themselves all day could be more introspective than normal (or sometimes not: they could waste their day thinking about how great they are).

But if part of success is understanding your own thought process and working around your strengths/weaknesses, these are useful insights for anyone on the narcissism spectrum (see: everyone)

Ref: [0] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/socially-relevant/20...

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Just like a narcissist to write a post about himself.

There were about 200 instances of "I" in that post.

Most of the article is the author asking the person questions about himself; I'm not sure how anyone could give proper answers to those questions without using first person pronouns.
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