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The Hand Licking Incident

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Re: The Hand Licking Incident

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Post by dustycat »

djsumdog wrote: post #105

I thought this was going to turn into an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder story. I use to wash my hands when I was younger .. a lot. I couldn't give an explanation because there wouldn't have been a rational one to give. Instead I was just put on a bunch of drugs, all of which didn't make the compulsion go away, but did make me not want to wash my hands. Since I felt like I couldn't do certain things without washing my…

I have no medical qualifications, so take this for what it's worth, but I was told by a psychiatrist specialising in child development disorders that excessive hand-washing is one symptom of Asperger's syndrome.

Re: The Hand Licking Incident

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Post by Baeocystin »

nostrademons wrote: post #108
Baeocystin wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Eh... I can count on a shop teacher's hand the number of times I was actually spanked or swatted when I was a kid, but after talking to my Mom about it, I think she made the right choice the times she did. To give a specific example, once was when I was about five, I had just learned about electromagnets, and was actively trying to shove bare wire into an outlet. Yes, the spanking did make me a little afraid of pokin…

There are plug covers you can buy for Hell, my parents also told me when I was ~4 not to stick anything in the electrical outlets. No spankings were involved. I listened because why wouldn't I? (Well, at least until senior year in college, when I was like "What happens if I strip an Ethernet cord and stick it in an electrical outlet?" I'd missed the exploding-wires demonstration in my physics course, y'see. Did not g…

Plug covers are easily and rapidly removed by curious children, and are potentially a choking hazard.

Tamper-resistant receptacles, however, do seem to provide a real increase in safety. FWIW.

https://www.esfi.org/resource/how-protected-are-children-fro...

(These did not exist when I was a child, but had they been available, I'm sure my parents would have used them.)

>I listened because why wouldn't I?

So did I, about a vast majority of things, until I didn't, because I thought electromagnets were cooler than verbal warnings were deterring. I think you will be hard-pressed to find a child anywhere in the world that doesn't push boundaries.

Re: The Hand Licking Incident

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Post by visarga »

nostrademons wrote: post #108
Baeocystin wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Eh... I can count on a shop teacher's hand the number of times I was actually spanked or swatted when I was a kid, but after talking to my Mom about it, I think she made the right choice the times she did. To give a specific example, once was when I was about five, I had just learned about electromagnets, and was actively trying to shove bare wire into an outlet. Yes, the spanking did make me a little afraid of pokin…

There are plug covers you can buy for Hell, my parents also told me when I was ~4 not to stick anything in the electrical outlets. No spankings were involved. I listened because why wouldn't I? (Well, at least until senior year in college, when I was like "What happens if I strip an Ethernet cord and stick it in an electrical outlet?" I'd missed the exploding-wires demonstration in my physics course, y'see. Did not g…

I shorted an electrical outlet when I was five. I had the whole exploding wires show, the fuse blew out, my parents thought it was just a defect in the installation. Learned my fear of electricity first hand. Fortunately the wire I was using was isolated in the middle portion and only sparked at the ends. Even today I dread making repairs on the power circuits of the house and call in a specialist, even though I understand electricity. It's just that I imagine the possible shock too vividly.

Re: The Hand Licking Incident

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Post by jameslk »

Sounds like a case of criticism vs feedback. From:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anger-in-the-age-ent...

> Criticism focuses on what’s wrong. Feedback focuses on how to improve.

> Criticism implies the worst about the other’s personality. Feedback is about behavior, not personality.

> Criticism devalues. Feedback encourages.

> Criticism implies blame. Feedback focuses on the future.

> Criticism attempts to control. Feedback respects autonomy.

> Criticism is coercive. Feedback is not at all coercive.

Re: The Hand Licking Incident

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Post by ambicapter »

taneq wrote: post #90
JoBrad wrote: post #60

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The article mentions that she tried grilling her son about why he was doing this early on, without success.

True, but there's a difference between grilling someone about something, usually after a confrontation about it, and calmly discussing their motivations with them without a build-up of conflict beforehand.

As well, sometimes the difference is months of brain development.

Re: The Hand Licking Incident

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Post by tapland »

dustycat wrote: post #111
djsumdog wrote: post #105

I thought this was going to turn into an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder story. I use to wash my hands when I was younger .. a lot. I couldn't give an explanation because there wouldn't have been a rational one to give. Instead I was just put on a bunch of drugs, all of which didn't make the compulsion go away, but did make me not want to wash my hands. Since I felt like I couldn't do certain things without washing my…

I have no medical qualifications, so take this for what it's worth, but I was told by a psychiatrist specialising in child development disorders that excessive hand-washing is one symptom of Asperger's syndrome.

It is one of the factors that they check for as part of an ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) diagnosis, yes. But if it is severe they will strap on the OCD diagnosis as well.

Re: The Hand Licking Incident

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Post by jimbo999 »

dustycat wrote: post #111
djsumdog wrote: post #105

I thought this was going to turn into an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder story. I use to wash my hands when I was younger .. a lot. I couldn't give an explanation because there wouldn't have been a rational one to give. Instead I was just put on a bunch of drugs, all of which didn't make the compulsion go away, but did make me not want to wash my hands. Since I felt like I couldn't do certain things without washing my…

I have no medical qualifications, so take this for what it's worth, but I was told by a psychiatrist specialising in child development disorders that excessive hand-washing is one symptom of Asperger's syndrome.

It would be not surprising that folks on here would have Aspergers.

Re: The Hand Licking Incident

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Post by exolymph »

beaconstudios wrote: post #65

I tend to think that almost every time someone is doing something you don't understand or don't like, you're better off understanding the reason for the behaviour than trying to quash it. Even if you desperately want it to stop, they're clearly doing the thing as a means to address something so if you want to stop them using the current solution you should have a better solution to hand or the problem will once again…

Seems like a manifestation of Chesterton's Fence! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Chesterton%27s_fence

Re: The Hand Licking Incident

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Post by exolymph »

nostrademons wrote: post #108
Baeocystin wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Eh... I can count on a shop teacher's hand the number of times I was actually spanked or swatted when I was a kid, but after talking to my Mom about it, I think she made the right choice the times she did. To give a specific example, once was when I was about five, I had just learned about electromagnets, and was actively trying to shove bare wire into an outlet. Yes, the spanking did make me a little afraid of pokin…

There are plug covers you can buy for Hell, my parents also told me when I was ~4 not to stick anything in the electrical outlets. No spankings were involved. I listened because why wouldn't I? (Well, at least until senior year in college, when I was like "What happens if I strip an Ethernet cord and stick it in an electrical outlet?" I'd missed the exploding-wires demonstration in my physics course, y'see. Did not g…

> I listened because why wouldn't I?

This is the typical-mind fallacy. Not every kid is reasonable or easily biddable.

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