no regrets.
trying to live in a way to keep it that way.
Ask HN: What are your regrets?
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Re: Ask HN: What are your regrets?
#62Well there was this girl, whom I didn't go after...
There was this girl, who I did... Edit: Downvote? Really? Look there are some people who you don't learn fuzzy little life lessons from despite the bad times. There are some people who are just bad for your soul, who drain the life from you with constant drama, who you really could just do without. My regret is not learning this in time to avoid being caught up with one of them, and when finding myself so, letting it…
"There are some people who are just bad for your soul, who drain the life from you with constant drama, who you really could just do without."
I second that! Same situation here.
Re: Ask HN: What are your regrets?
#63Regrets? I've had a few; but, then again, too few to mention. I could regret having voluntarily foregone a normal childhood in favor of solitary intellectual and artistic pursuits, but then I wouldn't have had the foundation that later allowed my to do some really neat things for a living. I could regret having dropped out of high school upon learning that I'd won enough in scholarships to attend Waterloo at a tidy p…
+1 for everything mentioned here. +10 for the way it was mentioned. +100 for the Sinatra reference.
(totally off-topic)
and plus a few more points for having the same as this guy:
Re: Ask HN: What are your regrets?
#64Being lazy... it's been a year and I am still inbetween novice and intermediate when it comes to javascript and php. I have the books and some tutorials but I have not really looked at them. I could be a lot farther along with all my projects if I focused.
Re: Ask HN: What are your regrets?
#65Je ne regrette rien!
I regret nothing!
Re: Ask HN: What are your regrets?
#66Regrets? I've had a few; but, then again, too few to mention. I could regret having voluntarily foregone a normal childhood in favor of solitary intellectual and artistic pursuits, but then I wouldn't have had the foundation that later allowed my to do some really neat things for a living. I could regret having dropped out of high school upon learning that I'd won enough in scholarships to attend Waterloo at a tidy p…
I will just put into words what everyone would feel after reading this - "never regret". I recently quit my job with enormous optimism that I will definitely manage to do something on my own; but I do face the days when I start thinking about my decision. Now that I have read this, no matter what happens, I am not going to regret what I have done
Re: Ask HN: What are your regrets?
#67Some people call them "regrets." I like to call them "lessons learned."
Re: Ask HN: What are your regrets?
#68Earlier quoted context omitted.
Trust me you're not missing anything at all. If I actually had any regrets is doing the single thing too much and going overboard too many times.
He needs to find out for himself that he's not missing anything...btw he IS missing a LOT. Being Single and being in a relationship affect your lifestyle in different ways, and everyone should take time to enjoy both.
The man says that he's in a committed relationship, but that he's scared of the fact that he might miss the "single" experience. If you tell him that he is missing "a LOT" you're giving him encouragement for him to leave that relationship to live the single lifestyle that is completely overblown by the media.
It's easy to tell people they are missing the best part of being in their twenties, when in reality it's not all that it's been made up to be, as the only thing it really contributes to one's life is a false sense of accomplishment.
Here's another golden nugget for the grandparent: Everyone talks about the single lifestyle, but that's a lifestyle suited for a really small fraction of the people that supposedly tell you it's the next big thing. You need a boatload of social skills that a great percentage of people don't really have, you need to be sort of successful at the moment, you need to have a way with women (which is something that comes from a boatload of experience), and you really need to have at least a couple of friends that are living it large as well.
I've seen friends make this exact same statement, that they are missing out and that they think they should leave the relationship they have and try the single lifestyle. It always blows up in their faces. In contrast, the two friends I had that really lived this lifestyle at the same time I did both realized they where going down fast and now one is married and the other one is engaged.
If there is one advice I can give you GP. If you have a couple of friends that tell you it's the greatest thing ever, the threesomes, the challenges, the satisfaction of bedding that model, etc... realize one thing, for every one of those men, there are hundreds (if not thousands) that won't achieve the same experiences, and the one's that do generally burn out pretty quickly. If you were single, I'd tell you to try it out and see what happens, but you're not and it would be a mistake to try to live it up just because. If you're happy with your significant other, don't sweat it, it's a lifestyle not worth your while.
Hell most people that do live it up like this don't do it because of a life choice, they do it because it's the only thing they have ever known, and it's a thing that just happened. You can't artificially become a money spending ladies man just like that.
Re: Ask HN: What are your regrets?
#69I regret not forcing myself to leave my over-paid, reliable, incredibly easy job years ago. Despite building many (what I consider cool) things solo, my job search is suffering from a lack of experience developing in a collaborative environment and the problem of being too much of a generalist. This is what happens when you do everything yourself.
Never regret being a generalist.
...I think I just accidentally made a pun.
Re: Ask HN: What are your regrets?
#70Earlier quoted context omitted.
There was this girl, who I did... Edit: Downvote? Really? Look there are some people who you don't learn fuzzy little life lessons from despite the bad times. There are some people who are just bad for your soul, who drain the life from you with constant drama, who you really could just do without. My regret is not learning this in time to avoid being caught up with one of them, and when finding myself so, letting it…
"There are some people who are just bad for your soul, who drain the life from you with constant drama, who you really could just do without." I second that! Same situation here.
When I was young, I thought that all of life was carbon-based. Later, I learned that there are also anxiety-based lifeforms. Who we all really could just do without.