The Time Has Come to Finally Delete Facebook
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The Time Has Come to Finally Delete Facebook
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#2All the rewards and none of the responsibility. It's the Silicon Valley way.
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#3I never had Facebook but still got my friends, family and places to go to.
As an outsider I find the fuzz around Facebook amazing.
So what Facebook does only care about money. Are they supposed not to?
If you don't like Facebook just leave and don't be so dramatic about it.
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#4Well, I'm certainly ahead of the times, then. I deleted years ago. Was barely even on the platform. I don't get why it addicts so many people, it feels like the worst way to communicate with friends; I've got group chats across several apps and those are infinitely better even if limited. My only real regret is the "several apps" part.
So if Facebook doesn't care, why do people think Twitter cares? Or any social media?
I early on naively hoped Google+ would "save" social media... But honestly, even though I was a huge proponent in it's first year or so, it became clear the problem was really with the concept itself and not the platforms. I don't believe in global social networks anymore. I believe in a very loosely tied network of tiny to small communities for interests, groups of friends, etc. And I realise some social media platforms have tried to implement groups, but to me it never even really came close to offering what we already had with the web of online forums and IRC channels. To me, having a single global network where each person has their own group of friends is both too limiting and too wide open.
Re: The Time Has Come to Finally Delete Facebook
#5Facebook prioritizes "connection", but doesn't question whether all of those connections are -good- ones. I know there are a million comments out there about how deleting Facebook led to someone having less anxiety, depression, etc., but I'm also in that camp for a reason that I don't think gets mentioned a lot.
I suffer from PTSD due to childhood abuse and neglect (and I'm talking heavy drug use, physical, verbal, and psychological abuse, gas-lightning). But when my parents, my abusers, added me on Facebook I felt obligated to add them due to pressure from family members and friends who don't get how the abuse affected me, and out of guilt because I had a child and didn't want to deprive them of some relationship with their grandchild. I do know that responsibility lies with me for not ignoring them or speaking up about it. However, leaving Facebook severed that connection again, and I felt slightly more free knowing I wouldn't have to interact with them or let them have a view into my life.
I started using Facebook because I wanted to cure my loneliness and make some friends in college, which did actually happen. At first. Now it's just a platform that reminds me of the past by forcing these "connections", suggesting people who I had long forgotten and never wanted to speak to again.
I say, "Good riddance".
Re: The Time Has Come to Finally Delete Facebook
#6Facebook prioritizes "connection", but doesn't question whether all of those connections are -good- ones. I know there are a million comments out there about how deleting Facebook led to someone having less anxiety, depression, etc., but I'm also in that camp for a reason that I don't think gets mentioned a lot. I suffer from PTSD due to childhood abuse and neglect (and I'm talking heavy drug use, physical, verbal, a…
Sorry to hear of what you've been through
> Now it's just a platform that reminds me of the past by forcing these "connections"
It doesn't force those things.
Re: The Time Has Come to Finally Delete Facebook
#7Facebook prioritizes "connection", but doesn't question whether all of those connections are -good- ones. I know there are a million comments out there about how deleting Facebook led to someone having less anxiety, depression, etc., but I'm also in that camp for a reason that I don't think gets mentioned a lot. I suffer from PTSD due to childhood abuse and neglect (and I'm talking heavy drug use, physical, verbal, a…
Sorry to hear of what you've been through > Now it's just a platform that reminds me of the past by forcing these "connections" It doesn't force those things.
I think it does.
Re: The Time Has Come to Finally Delete Facebook
#8Well, I'm certainly ahead of the times, then. I deleted years ago. Was barely even on the platform. I don't get why it addicts so many people, it feels like the worst way to communicate with friends; I've got group chats across several apps and those are infinitely better even if limited. My only real regret is the "several apps" part. So if Facebook doesn't care, why do people think Twitter cares? Or any social medi…
The benefit from Facebook that isn't really offered by anything other than Google+ is the "Christmas Card" news - you find out when your old friends and distant relatives have important things happening in their lives, like moving, getting married, having kids, etc. Also people like to live vicariously through their friends, which they can do through photos of their lives, especially kids and trips.
Re: The Time Has Come to Finally Delete Facebook
#9All the rewards and none of the responsibility. It's the Silicon Valley way.
Repackage business models that exist in developing nations as a result of extreme income disparity or poverty and call it the new gig/sharing economy. Make sure the app captures as much data from the user's phone as possible; it's worth something.
Re: The Time Has Come to Finally Delete Facebook
#10Facebook prioritizes "connection", but doesn't question whether all of those connections are -good- ones. I know there are a million comments out there about how deleting Facebook led to someone having less anxiety, depression, etc., but I'm also in that camp for a reason that I don't think gets mentioned a lot. I suffer from PTSD due to childhood abuse and neglect (and I'm talking heavy drug use, physical, verbal, a…
Sorry to hear of what you've been through > Now it's just a platform that reminds me of the past by forcing these "connections" It doesn't force those things.
Maybe "force" is too strong a word. However, it strongly pushes them by generating lists of people you may know even if you haven't talked to them in over a decade. It also makes it easier for someone to just click "Friend this person" rather than having to find someone's number and pick up the phone.
Guilt is a strong motivator, as least for me, so granting someone that access makes it a lot more difficult to set appropriate boundaries.