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This seems mostly like a not-so-humblebrag about her daughter than anything else. Child of NYTimes editor and journalist in Brooklyn has 1000 followers on instagram. Real big news.
Never let anyone tell you that our current standard of "normal" is normal. It's only the pressures of the world that make teenagers retract from their parents. Every emotion you've ever felt has been developed, whether by God or by hundreds of thousands of years of natural selection. Conscious thought may deliver us to emotion, but the emotion that you arrive at is something that has always been inside of you. When f…
> Kids have been sexualized and have to grow up too quickly. Kids have been made into tiny workers that do busy work for most of their childhood, away from their parents, because both parents have to work. > It's dystopian, disgusting and perverted Correct me if I'm wrong, but for most of history, weren't "kids" already married and working to support a family when they were in their teens? I know my grandparents, my…
Marriages tended to be a bit older among peasants just because there was 'less of a point' but nobility had marriages at 12 or so - and not even always with a comparable age partner. Certainly not stating that this is /right/ but the point is that normal doesn't really mean much and don't look to the past for arcadia.
Really historically if anything kids are growing up 'slower' than they were for centuries - and that is a far better adaptation to our current needs - we need more skilled specialist work outproduces manual labor thousand fold.
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As one of those friends: I’m sorry I enjoy your company and want to cherish it as a good memory.
It depends on what you're taking pictures of. A lot of people seem to snap pictures of landscape, with or without other strangers in it. Those are the kind of pictures that aren't really durably interesting over the long haul. For well known places you can always find a pro who did a wonderful job capturing it. Now, if you're taking pictures of yourself and/or your friends, that makes perfect sense to me. As long as…
Upon discovering that her daughter -- a budding guitar player -- liked listening to one of the same songs she did, she thought it would be wise to demonstrate that she, the experienced adult, already knew how to play that particular song on the guitar. Next, she offered to teach her daughter how to play it herself, robbing her of any opportunity to a) learn the song on her own, and b) decide for herself that it was a song she wanted to learn in the first place.
I think a lot of parents could do with a bit more empathy for their teenage children. Teenagers are developing newfound desires for autonomy and mastery, but still feel largely trapped by their circumstances. It's no wonder they lock themselves in their rooms -- it's the only environment they have any control over.
Millennials - the generation of photographers, because of smartphones and instagram. Does anyone else get irritated when their friends feel obligated to whip out their phone to take pictures when you're out and about in new locations?
But just taking a picture with no flash? I know it's a personal thing, but I personally find it less offensive than any other reason you'd pull out a phone.
Never let anyone tell you that our current standard of "normal" is normal. It's only the pressures of the world that make teenagers retract from their parents. Every emotion you've ever felt has been developed, whether by God or by hundreds of thousands of years of natural selection. Conscious thought may deliver us to emotion, but the emotion that you arrive at is something that has always been inside of you. When f…
And if I'm not mistaken it wasn't at all unusual until fairly recently for daughters to be married off and for sons to start an apprenticeship in their late teens. Only the necessity for decades of education for getting a job keeps children dependent on their parents so long.
Never let anyone tell you that our current standard of "normal" is normal. It's only the pressures of the world that make teenagers retract from their parents. Every emotion you've ever felt has been developed, whether by God or by hundreds of thousands of years of natural selection. Conscious thought may deliver us to emotion, but the emotion that you arrive at is something that has always been inside of you. When f…
I think your sentiment is well-meaning but maybe a bit dangerous. It's setting up an unrealistic expectation of how adolescence "should" be, which risks leading parents to blame themselves or their kids when it doesn't turn out that way. Because it's extremely unlikely to turn out that way. Adolescents are frequently at odds with their parents for the same reason 3 year olds are famous for temper tantrums: because it…
So are conflicts between siblings of any age or spouses or friends. We however do not treat good relationship between the two as exception and toxic relationship as expected development the way some do it with teenagers.
Also, as a parent in current society, I suspect it is not so much child starting to see itself as distinct from parent at age of 14 (the kid should get it sooner), but more of parent loosing control. Teenagers were and will be moody and emotional due to biological reasons. However, a lot of other conflicts has to do with expectations and lifestyles.
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As one of those friends: I’m sorry I enjoy your company and want to cherish it as a good memory.
It depends on what you're taking pictures of. A lot of people seem to snap pictures of landscape, with or without other strangers in it. Those are the kind of pictures that aren't really durably interesting over the long haul. For well known places you can always find a pro who did a wonderful job capturing it. Now, if you're taking pictures of yourself and/or your friends, that makes perfect sense to me. As long as…
The difference between a pro photo and my photo is that I own my photo and know exactly where and when it was taken.
Never let anyone tell you that our current standard of "normal" is normal. It's only the pressures of the world that make teenagers retract from their parents. Every emotion you've ever felt has been developed, whether by God or by hundreds of thousands of years of natural selection. Conscious thought may deliver us to emotion, but the emotion that you arrive at is something that has always been inside of you. When f…
Never let anyone tell you that our current standard of "normal" is normal. It's only the pressures of the world that make teenagers retract from their parents. Every emotion you've ever felt has been developed, whether by God or by hundreds of thousands of years of natural selection. Conscious thought may deliver us to emotion, but the emotion that you arrive at is something that has always been inside of you. When f…
0) The History of Childhood by Lloyd DeMause (1995).